How to Help Your Children if They see Spirits

How to Help Your Children if They see Spirits

Mommy………daddy….there is a man in my room! 

Apart from the disruption in sleep, the words above screamed at you in between sobs can make most parents want to run away and hide probably from both the Spirits as well as their children. First of all, it is tricky to explain to your little ones what they are experiencing if you are not very interested or aware of spirits. It is the same feeling I get when I am asked to calculate big numbers! Part of it is having to explain something you don’t fully understand but also it is incredibly difficult to see your little one feeling so scared about something you can’t see or feel.  Parents have a natural instinct to protect their children and when they can’t, it feels like your hands are tied and it is frustrating.

As someone who suffered tremendously as a child with spiritual experiences and learned to deal with it on my own, I have been thinking of writing this post and a possible e-book for a long time but as usual I get side tracked and never got around it. But Spirit have ways to get me to do things! I had several clients who came to see asking about the very same topic – all having children who see spirits and don’t know what to do to help them, messages from friends and some former clients. So despite having a hundred and one things to do today, I was pulled to the laptop and the words are flowing as we speak. 

First thing you need to understand is that we are all born intuitive and the ability to see spirit. As we grow older and as the mind analyses everything and our thoughts are influenced by our upbringing or our own opinions, some of us “forget” that part of our self.  The second most important point is that spirits mean no harm. It is our fear of them or the unknown that makes us “feel” the negative energy.

The most common visits are from family in Spirit. Grandparents, parents or anyone related to the child will want to visit and if possible, communicate their love. Of course not all of them know how to and children may only be able to see shadows which in the dark looks scary.

It is not uncommon for strangers who may have lived in the house before your family moved in or on the plot of land the house was built on, come for a little look. Put yourself in their position and ask yourself, wouldn’t you do the same? Would you not visit your grandchild after you passed? Or come by to see the house you had the best memories in? The answer is a big YES!  

Children have more spiritual experiences than psychic at the beginning as it takes time for them to fully understand and flex their psychic ability while being able to see or feel Spirit is easier as they have no preconceived notions, prejudice or fear – you can say this is an open door for spiritual experiences. If they are meant to be spiritually connected throughout their lives then this will continue and they will attract mentors and helpers to develop their abilities.

The challenge is their reaction to a Spirit visit. Fear comes naturally as when the lights are out and they see a shadow or a person standing in their bedroom who is not someone they recognise. Children have a natural curiosity and will want to know more – who, why and what. Others will be shaken to the core because they KNOW that they are seeing Spirit or something they can’t fully understand.

Why did I write this? I KNOW how it feels! I learned from my own experiences and want to help the new generation of children to be more comfortable with the Spiritual world. I spent a long time fearing and thinking Spirits were evil and scary. But I know better now and I fully appreciate every moment I spent working with Spirit. 

I had spirits visiting me from a very young age but it was only when I was 10 when I realised that the people I was seeing were actually spirits. It scared me and I wasn’t very comfortable because I couldn’t understand their presence and the feelings that would come with it. For example a cold spot on my arm, goosebumps or sensing their death or hearing a message – it all freaked me out. Of course now a medium, this is all normal and I don’t feel negativity at all when I am near spirit. But as a child it was scary, intrusive and really affected my life in ways I cannot even begin to explain.

For many years I slept with the lights on and in fact always had the light on in hotel rooms or when I was alone in the house, I hated the dark, I had nightmares, disturbed sleep, felt misunderstood, and thought I was a misfit.

My parents tried everything to help me and my dad would often get to sleep really late as he would stay up in case I had a nightmare or an experience whereby I would start screaming in the night. It would take ages for them to calm me down and for me to go back to sleep. My mother would pray for me and sing devotional songs to make me feel better. I remember seeing several mediums and medicine men to help me but nothing helped. I had all sorts of charms and protective things around my bed and in my pillow to help but it just went on for years. I also suffered from sleep paralysis for a long time and I don’t have to tell you how absolutely terrifying an experience it was for me as a child. I mistakenly thought I was being attacked by spirits and that added to my fear.

So what have I learned from my own experiences? And what advise can I give to parents? Here is my essential list on how you can help your children:

  • First of all, it is important to have an open dialogue with your young ones. Try to understand what they are seeing. Write it down in a book with a date and time of when they wake up.
  • Look back at what you have written down later that day. Try to understand what your child experienced that night. For example:  Tim said he saw a tall man wearing a hat, standing next to the wardrobe. He had a cane and was reaching out for Tim.  Now if you look at this information – you have information about a spirit contact – tall man who lived in an era where men wore hats and possibly dressed in a suit. Now think about someone in spirit who matches that description on both  you and your partner’s side of the family. Was Is it a grandfather or great grandfather? Ask family members and maybe have a look at an old photo album. You may well find a photo that links to the Spirit contact. Allow your child to view the photo and explain who this person was, if possible describe their character. Now from Tim’s description it sounds like the spirit contact merely wanted to say hello and was reaching out with affection. Explain to the child that sometimes, when someone passes into the light, they do come back to say hello and to show love.  Take the fear and negativity out of that experience so that all that remains is LOVE and the child is now able to enjoy the experience. 
  • You can also teach your children to speak to the spirit contact. They can also be taught to say something simple like “thank you for visiting but I want to sleep now” so that sets a sort of boundary that Spirit will respect.
  • If your children are a little older and able to write, give them a journal, help them decorate it and call it their “spiritual journal” or whatever you both would like to call it. Guide them to write down their experiences. There may even be messages from spirit but also from their own intuition.
  • Guide them to “humanise” the spirit contact. I know it sounds weird but by teaching them to have a conversation with the Spirit, it almost makes it a more normal experience.  They can ask “what is your name? “who are you” “Do you know my parents? “where do you live? So this allows the fear to take second place.  You will find that they will get more curious and be able to talk about it without any fear.
  • You can clear the energy in their room by smudging the house and areas where they see the spirit contact with white sage. I always have a lighted candle on a clean plate and a shell for my sage to rest on as I walk around the house. You can say “whoever who is visiting, please go to the light. We politely ask you to leave this space”
  • Sensitive children can also feel the pain of the spirit contact’s passing or even their emotions. For example if a grandchild was born after a grandmother has passed, she may feel great sadness at not being alive for the birth and being able to physically hold that child. Spirits sometimes miss their “physical” life and it can seem sad. Some children will feel it more than others. It is up the parents to understand and explain this to the children as they grow older.
  • The most important thing parents can do is to try to understand what their children are going through and not dismiss their experiences as “nonsense” or “rubbish” or worse still blame it on their over active imagination. It is very frustrating for children who can’t express themselves clearly to be told what they are experiencing is not important!
  • The best way to help someone is to understand what the other person is going through. Read up about how mediumship, spiritual experiences and how the different gifts work. There is plenty of free information on the Internet and books you can read.
  • Get support – you can take them to your local spiritual church. They will be able to give both you and your child important insights and recommend useful books and reading material. Almost all Spiritual Churches have a development circle where people can learn the basics, attend every week to expand their knowledge and experience with Spirit. I am not entirely sure if they do work with children but I have seen teenagers attend. This is something to consider if you feel your child has an interest in developing spiritually.
  • Go see an experienced and knowledgeable medium either with your child or on your own to get better insight into how it all works.
  • Don’t doubt your children if they say they see spirits. This is a guarantee that they will suffer from insecurities and feel misunderstood. The most important thing you can do is to LISTEN and acknowledge what they are going through.
  • Just remember that most of the time Spirit people show themselves because they are truly desperate to be acknowledged. They want to reach out and they want to communicate. The more your explain what the child is experiencing, the more they will be comfortable and relaxed. But to do this, you the parent need to be comfortable with THEIR experiences.

Finally as the parent you need to make the effort to take the fear out of the experience and perhaps also be open to learning more about the spirit world. Understand that they come in contact with us to say hello and to reach out. They don’t mean us any harm but then you have to realise that not all spirits are the same. Some can be a little too eager than others which means they aren’t familiar with their communication skills and then to give out the wrong message or be a little clumsy. 

Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you have any questions or would like me to support your child in their development. 

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The Snow Moon – bearer of dreams

The Snow Moon – bearer of dreams

If you like others I have been speaking to, been experiencing vivid dreams, extraordinary conversations during dream time or waking up at odd times in the night between 4am and 5am, then you are feeling the energy of the Snow Moon which will be fully realised tomorrow Feb 22) evening.

While my dreams were perplexing and  intense, I dug a little deeper and found subtle messages in them. Some of them amazed me and others left me a little bemused. I kept waking up at a particular time last week and it hit me this may be a another sign/message or code. I checked Angels numbers relating to the numbers and the message was as clear as mud for my present situation. Never underestimate the power of dreams and the energy of the moon.

In ancient times, the Sun and the Moon highly influenced how man lived, from agriculture, to marriage to even how they lived. Many of the old names of the  Full Moons relates to how life was during that moon phase or  in some astrological terms, how people were affected by the moon at that time. For example tomorrow’s moon was called the Full Snow Moon because the snow fell the heaviest in February. Hunting was also difficult in some parts of the world hence the Native American name – the “hunger moon”.  While the Sun is often worshiped , the full moon has always been dark and mysterious. It is often blamed for natural disasters, dark arts and bad luck.

These days, the full moon is in particular is looked at as an energy source from the universe to manifest our desires and release of negativity. Its almost like a two way beam of pure power than builds up as it reaches earth.

I am actually smiling as I write this as I realised I mentioned the “hunger moon” and I have been on a sort of a diet to change my eating patterns which has essentially left me hungry! I just thought I would add that it as it was funny, for me at least.

If you have a moment tonight before you go to sleep, try to sage the house or if you don’t have sage, light some incense and take it around the house, with a plate or something to catch the ashes to cleanse the house. I always do a little clean around the house and sage, the day before the full moon.

You can read my FREE guide on how to write your wishlist and energising your crystals here. Please do share this email or the link above with friends and family. The more people start doing these sort of simple and easy rituals, the better. I have personally seen so many wonderful things happen for myself and others so I am passionate about getting the word out.  There are social media share buttons below this email.

Some people have been saying how they have been crying, feeling really low, doubting themselves and even feeling a little run down. The energy of this moon smacks us in the face before it lifts us up higher so put your faith in the universe that things will work out. Crying is a great release so just let it out and cleanse energy. Sometimes our energy blocks is about not showing or releasing that emotion. Crying gets that block out and brings more clarity to us afterwards. If you have been trying to get something started but feeling less confident as time goes by, this is the time to be a little reckless and just do it. You need to stand in your own power right now and the universe is pushing you to make that decision.

Hope you have a wonderful week ahead and your dreams manifest into reality,


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Spiritual Boundaries

I was reluctant to tell people that I could see, hear and sense Spirit when I was younger. You feel put on the spot and at times, a performing circus act. “So who is here now then? “Is this place haunted? “Shall I call you Mystic Meg now? All sorts of questions and comments would come flying and I used to feel so overwhelmed. So I clammed up and made my Spiritual awareness a dirty little secret. The Spirit world were cruel though. They would swamp me with so much sensitivity that I would blab to people around me thinking they “needed” to hear the messages. I didn’t realise that it was more important to know if they “want” the message. When someone is not ready or interested, then it could freak people out and often cause confusion. There is a right place and time for it. I remember telling a friend that there was a negative energy in his house which he needed to clear and as he was a non believer, broke off our friendship. He didn’t like receiving the message especially as he had just rented the property. Sure enough there was an incident afterwards but he still refused to talk to me. I was incredibly hurt and couldn’t understand his anger  when all I was trying to do was help. This is a trap that spiritually aware folks fall into. We get so wrapped up in our ability which allows us to have insight that others don’t that we go beyond the call of duty. 

The lesson I learned is that unless someone asks, don’t jump in and assume that they need to know what you know. Spiritual awakening is one thing but living with it is all about respect, boundaries and knowing when to say something and when to keep quiet. 

For some people who have had spiritual awakening  later in life, it is natural to feel like you need to shout it out from the rooftops. I have seen some who go from one extreme to the other or seem to be an overnight expert in everything. Obviously one of us can really know exactly what each person is going through but this is my take on it. Give yourself time to truly understand what YOU are going through and be comfortable with it first. It is like getting an email from National Lottery saying you have won a prize on the latest draw but instead of checking how much you won, what numbers were successful and how this will change your life etc, you run off announcing to the world that you won. You’ve made plans to celebrate, told everyone, planned out what you want to buy and so on. But then obviously what if the prize was £100 and not the £1 million you envisioned? 

I know I am not being too conservative when I say, take your time, be sensible, be in the here and now before you react. I feel the longevity of your spirituality will be enhanced by being a little cautious at the start. It took me years before I truly accepted my spiritual self  and nearly 32 years before I responded to my calling, which is to work with the spiritual world. I am truly humbled to hear of how some of the renowned mediums, some of who I have had the privilege of training under, spent years in development before they even considered being one. I regularly spend time and money to develop my abilities and expand my knowledge. I sit in meditation to allow my Spirit family to teach me. Who best to teach you about the Spirit world than the discarnate? 

I didn’t grow up in an environment where positive spiritual development and circles were available so I did most of it myself and through the help of my spiritual influencers. But I have learned the hard way of putting boundaries in place, instilling respect in yourself and in the spirit world, and most of all, trusting yourself.

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He who owns the house faces the wind the most

I woke up this morning saying these words “He who owns the house faces the wind the most”. I have to admit it took me a while to decipher my writing as I scribbled it down on my dream book the moment I woke up. Yes, I have a “dream book” where I jot down my dreams and whatever I wake up saying. I realised a while ago that the spirit world use our dream time to communicate messages and offer inspiration. I have a bad memory normally so I need to write it down. I enjoy going through the book to see how some of the dreams have unfolded and the hidden meanings in messages. Sorry for the straying from the original post. So yes, I woke up saying the words above and took me a while to get what it meant. You know how we tend to say, “Unless you have walked in my shoes…” It is something along the same lines but maybe a little deeper. The person who owns the house knows how hard it is to manage and maintain the property. . There is a huge difference between owning a house and renting one.  Let me use an analogy which is a little more interesting than the house! Have you heard of the hermit crab? They do not own their own shell but find abandoned sea snail shells to move into as they grow. When the shell starts to feel small, they begin their search for a bigger and suitable shell to protect themselves from predators. So when the crab starts to grow again, the search starts again. Unlike the other crabs which are physically attached to the shell walls, the hermit crab is a free agent. It has no loyalty to the shells it chooses to live. A normal crab will have to care for the shell, ensure it’s not released too quickly before the new one is fully grown. It also has to spend a long time hiding from predators in the sea while the new shell grows and hardens. It has to care, maintain and knows how important it is to protect itself. There is attachment, responsibility, loyalty and a sense of belonging.

He know owns the house faces the wind the most

Similarly, your soul or your spirit, is your house and your shell. If you don’t care and maintain it, then no one else will. We do not have the luxury of being a hermit crab. We are attached to our spirit and we feel every single flaw, every single pain and jolt. Keep it running, keep it balanced and keep it fed. Each of us will face our wind and our experience will differ from one person to the next. I realise the true meaning of this statement now and why I need to say this. Many of us face hardships in our lives.

Sometimes all we want is a little empathy, understanding and in some cases, being able to see things from your point of view. Here is the important bit – you are not always going to get it!  Because you own the shell and some of our family and friends, don’t! They won’t always understand because, very often they can’t put themselves in your shoes, situation or house!

Be proud that you “own” your house. You are in touch with our spirit because all you can do is grow, strengthen and harden yourself to the harsh winds out there. Eventually you will no longer feel it. But the one thing that will continue and make sense – yes, you got it……your house, spirit – the shell! Stay strong and stay true to yourself!

The Learning Never Stops

Our Spirit Guides and contacts are highly intelligent and all knowing. This is something light workers will understand as they progress on their spiritual path. Spiritual development is not always about deepening your gifts but also expanding your knowledge within the spiritual realms. You cannot just read or attend lectures about the spiritual world – you have to experience and strengthen your relationship with spirit.

I have learned so much since that amazing day , almost 33 years ago when I first saw spirit. I didn’t know what I was experiencing and I heard all sort of stories and myths about the spirit world that I was incredibly scared of my gifts. Like most natural mediums, I was terrified and rejected my abilities and unfortunately the more your resist, the harder it gets to shake it off. I have spent many years trying to understand them and separate the real from the negative.

I am so grateful to my father who has been the driving force behind my development since he passed.  I still remember the day he came through finally via my friend and wonderful Medium, Christine in Edinburgh. The day I met this beautiful woman was already special but the fact that she managed to channel my father for the very first time since he passed in 2005 was simply fantastic.

My father was a very particular and fussy man. He choose his friends well and he had a very distinctive taste in everything from his food (which led to numerous arguments with my mother who was a brilliant cook but couldn’t please my dad) to the creases in his trousers. He was very disapproving of people and when he liked someone, he was very passionate about the connection. Therefore it was sheer torture for me as I went to see different mediums and psychics over the years to connect with him. He wouldn’t come forward and I was hugely frustrated that I wasn’t able to channel him either. I questioned my own abilities as I could often sense and see him but never communicate with him.

I later came to realise that as he told Christine at that development weekend, that he was happy that I finally did something about my spirituality.  “I worked so hard to get you here! He said to Christine.  “Here” was the intense Mediumship course led by Tony Stockwell and James Van Praagh that Christine and I were at.

It was there that I had validation, understood the meaning of everything that occurred and most of all the reason why I struggled to communicate with my father. If he had come through straight away……would I have gone in search of my truth? They said that unless you truly experience hunger, you will never appreciate food. I had a fire in my belly. I wanted desperately to understand my gift and along the way, become closer to my father in Spirit.

My father started appearing in my mind’s eye soon after this course. He interacted with me and offered me guidance. This is how he led me to Arthur Findlay Spiritual College. I was hesitating about finances and the time out but he was in my dreams every night, sitting with me at the dining table and talking for what seemed like hours. I would wake up not remembering every word but just a sentence or a sense of knowing what was discussed.

Christine and another talented Medium, mentioned the college to me and it sort of stuck in my mind.I found a course that resonated with me but I was worried about the cost and the time – 7 days away!

I woke up on the Friday morning before the course with these words on my lips….” Arthur Findlay Collage….GO”  after a long dream with my father. I remember in the dream he was drinking his favourite whisky on the rocks and was trying to convince me to do something. I stopped for a minute to think if this was me trying to convince myself to do it or really a sign from my father. I asked him clearly if he wanted me to go and I got an answer. I had a clear sense of knowing that I have to do this!

I picked up the phone and there was ONE last spot because someone cancelled! The lady at reception said I was really lucky as the course had been fully booked until the night before when someone from abroad called to cancel. I knew my father had a hand in this!

He knew the course would propel me into a different direction and allow me to follow my destiny and my life purpose. I couldn’t be happier and although I only started working as a medium only recently, the good reputation and recommendations I receive is based on ethics, wanting to work for the highest good and more importantly – genuinely wanting to help people.

I know my journey has only started and there is so much more for me to understand, learn and share. I have two amazing courses this year and I can’t wait!

Please feel free to leave feedback or questions about anything related to the spirit world and mediumship.