Why Spirits appear to us even after rituals and ceremonies

Why Spirits appear to us even after rituals and ceremonies

I was chatting with a friend the other lady about religious/cultural rituals for the dead and spirits. She was under the impression that the Hindu rituals were to release the soul to the next life or place so they wouldn’t haunt or come back to our physical world. This was a very interesting topic for me as I have said before, my mom came from a very strict Hindu background while my dad was a Roman Catholic. We are closet Hindus though was my paternal grandmother and that side of the family did not like us “mixing religions”. I know my dad resonated more with Hinduism and the rituals probably because he spent a lot of time studying and travelling in India. He was also very spiritual and a great follower of yoga, meditation and self awareness. He had in his lifetime met some of the most important yogis and spiritual gurus and learned almost every meditation or yoga technique. This is before it all became trendy and hip. It was the time when yoga, meditation and spirituality was a holistic approach to life . Despite the peer pressure to not practice Hinduism, my mother always managed to sneak in a temple trip, a ritual here and a prayer there. 

As a result I was lucky enough to witness and take part lots of rituals, from new born baby ceremonies to sending off the dead and even coming of age rituals. Some of which I understand and accept but I still never understood why I had to down glasses of raw eggs with castor oil for a month when I first got my period. It was sheer torture and I still gag when I see raw eggs. Ewwww! Apparently the old wives tale was that the mixture helps to aid childbirth. Protein from the eggs for nutritional reasons, to give you strength and the castor oil supposedly helps baby’s journey into the world smoother. I could be wrong but how is force feeding a 14 year old help labour years later? Jury is out on this one for me. But you see there is such so many different rituals, ceremonies, myths and old wive tales to navigate through and this is not just for Indians or Hindus, its in almost every culture, religion or country around the world. 

The rituals for the dead in Hinduism is to be a great send off. It is such a beautiful and sacred time for the living to bond with the dead. I always found cremation as the most sensible and quietly satisfying way for the dead to leave us. I remember my dad feeling extremely guilty about not visiting his dad and years later, his mom’s grave. There was pressure to ensure the graves were maintained and squabbles within the family about who should take responsibility. It almost felt that “grandma or grandpa was there – just under neath the moss covered head stone. There was so much emphasis on the grave that we forget they are with us all the time and everywhere. In fact they are least likely to hover around their grave when they no longer have the connection to their physical form.

My father had a Christian funeral leading up to the crematorium. I still choke up when I hear Amazing Grace. Brings me back to the church where I sat like I had a huge stone in my stomach. The Hindu ceremony was a serene, peaceful and spiritual affair. We drove a long way on a narrow road to a different town with my dad’s ashes. I was a little apprehensive about having his ashes so close but remember, I was still resisting my spirituality in those days.  We had a car load of flowers, incense, fruits and a long list of things the priest had asked us to bring including his payment.  We arrived at a very humble shrine set precariously on the edge of a very fast moving river. My brother, as the son was asked to put on a “vaisti” and take his shirt off. The priest put on a thick thread around him and did some special prayers to “protect” him. Obviously now I do question why he needed protection as my dad was unlikely to want to hurt his beloved son and spirits vibrate on love not hate.

We watched as they both waded into the middle of the river which was tricky as the stones underneath were slippery and the undercurrents strong. They poured his ashes into a brass container and the priest chanted mantras as my dad was released to the river. As my brother poured him little by little into the water, the light grey cloud blended into the water, turning dark and then disappear as quickly as they appeared.

And suddenly dawn  broke and a ray of light hit my brother and the brass container he was holding so we were all dazzled with golden light for a minute. And then a flock of birds appeared out of no where and flew up in the sky and away. It was the most beautiful moment of my life and I cried but it was from happiness. I knew right then and there that my dad was free and in peace. I saw it as a send off, the best way to let him go on to whatever came next.  

The conversation I had with this lady was about rituals Hindus such as these. Proper Hindu rituals would have more to it than what we did for my dad but they have a similar purpose. I found a beautiful article on this which was an interesting read.

Back to the question about these rituals serving a purpose e.g so they won’t come back and why and how spirits communicate with Mediums, well the answer is simple. These rituals are simply man made ceremonies which were put into place as a way for the living to say goodbye and send off their loved ones who have passed.  In the stone age, I can only assume that when someone died, they would either leave them somewhere far away or bury them. But then people would have found it really difficult to cope with the loss – of their presence, their laughter and personality around them. Not being able to reach out and touch someone, knowing you will never be able to do so is a huge part of the grieving process. Eventually mankind realised they had to do something to mark the passing of another human being and every culture and religion have their own way of saying goodbye. 

Hindus have very specific rituals to follow when someone has passed and the first year anniversary for example is a big event. There is lots of things to buy, make, cook and prepare and people to invite. Food is cooked and a separate setting with food, drinks and lot of ceremonial items placed near the persons’ photo. After a long and very intensive prayer session, everyone sits down for a meal. Tears are shed, stories told and hearts full of memories.

The spirit world appreciates such gestures and look down on these days with fondness but they need nothing except our love and to be remembered.  They don’t come back to us to haunt us but only to say hello and to let you know they still love and care.

Why do they “come back” ? Wouldn’t you if you had a chance to speak through a medium or to visit the family to see how they are getting on? It always boils down to “what would you do if you had the chance?  They don’t actually come back but merely a moment occurs where they can see us and realise they are able to communicate. Its like a veil has lifted and a special flash second of love between the two worlds is possible.

Put what you have been told about the dead, death and the spirit world — just open your hearts to the possibilities. 

Build the rainbow bridge with love, don’t destroy it with fear – Angela Mitchell 

Spiritual Development Insights

My job gives me access to people’s lives and experiences. People open up about the “paranormal” things that happen or their own spiritual experiences without fear of judgement. Who am I to judge? I get judged all the time as someone who is offering a personal service to bridge the gap between us and the Spirit world. I do get funny looks, snide remarks and the occasional nasty message from the non believers. Sometimes it hurts because it can get very personal and but most of the time, I feel sorry for them, as they are so quick to dismiss something that could bring so much clarity and comfort. But it doesn’t matter as I know who I am and where I stand with the people who love me and the Spirit world who support me in my work. I have been taught by some of the best mediums in the UK and the US as well as those accredited by the Spiritualists’ National Union ( with whom I hope to continue my education in the near future) who are all very tough and rigorous in their teachings. 

So, never feel apprehensive or scared of contacting me to ask questions or spiritual guidance. All my workshops for example are  fantastic places for people struggling with their spirituality to come forward to learn but also to share their experiences, no matter how weird. Part of my mission is to help people feel comforted rather than to “fear” spirit. We have been forced fed myths about spirit and the spirit world for centuries. All based on FEAR and prejudice. The moment you are different and can see or know something others don’t, then you get labelled as witches or charlatans who were sometimes used by the higher powers and then prosecuted. Personally I think people in the olden days who were spiritually aware were extremely vulnerable, had no role models, didn’t know how to use their gifts and ended up being overbearing at times. They would have either been elevated to God like status instantly and once the “power” diminished possibly due to not taking care of themselves or just having self doubt which happens when we are under a huge amount of stress put on by people’s expectation, deemed a charlatan and prosecuted. So we have been conditioned to fear and to be skeptical. I think its a good thing to be skeptical. It may surprise you but I am pretty skeptical. I am not a very “airy fairy”  and like to keep it simple.Children seeing ghosts

As a natural born medium who has gone through training to refine my abilities, I am very much aware of the do’s and don’ts. Once I hear someone say they have been to a reading which was like a “counselling session” for example, I know that is what it was, a counselling session, not a reading! During training, we are taught to be careful not to impose our own opinions or thoughts into the reading. The clarity is given either by spirit themselves or through the person’s soul via the psychic link. It is important for the reader to know when they are working psychic and when their own thoughts are clouding their messages. I remember during a workshop I was teaching when a lady who was in fact a counselor, veered off from a reading into a counselling session. She was really surprised as she had no idea she was tapping into her own thoughts but instead thought she was working psychic with cards. I think being a tad skeptical in my industry is a good thing as it keeps me grounded and also helps me keep a level head. A friend of mine who does sound healing and I were discussing how easy it is to get certificates for things like tarot reading and sound healing. We even found some below £30 which you can do online and get a certificate in less than two weeks!  In all honesty, you can teach yourself tarot or Angel cards.

12671934_1672347756386406_388656568295542139_oThere are two ways to do it – read the books page to page and you can use a system to know what the card indicates – relationships, positive or negative, is  it  major or minor Arcana which gives you a clue about what is happening in their lives etc. There is no huge mystery with cards – its based on the Law of Attraction. Your soul helps to pick the cards for you using the energy infused into them during the shuffle. There is a system which if you master you can read a person’s circumstances to a tee. As I was taught to use it differently,as a psychic tool in my lessons, and because I am lazy, I never really took the time to read too much into the cards. I prefer to work with them psychically and to use Angel cards but put away the manual which comes with it. I say what drops into my minds eye, how I feel about the card, what I see in my third eye. This is a little harder because you really have to trust yourself here as it has to be pure. I am like a child who has been give a bag of candies when the sitter can relate to the messages. It does get interesting when talking to other psychics or medium and they interpret the cards completely different to how I do and vice versa. Also the same card can have different meanings or messages for different people. There is no right or wrong way to do it, as long as the sitter gets the messages they need. 

But the key is you need practice, be face to face with a teacher, spiritual abilities and understand the fundamentals of providing readings to the public. You will make mistakes and a teacher can help you refine your way of working, explain things to you and see where you need help. You don’t get that on an online course! 

Your words can break or shape someone’s life. You must take time to get acquainted with the cards, with your own personal spirituality and know how to use your abilities before you can even venture into making a living from this. This is why you do have people who are very skeptical about people in this industry. My friend was aghast at the very thought that you could be a qualified sound therapist online without the “teacher” even hearing how the student works with element or their energies!  

You MUST work on your own spiritual gifts first,understand what you have, what the difference are so you know what you are doing, get a feel of your spiritual path BEFORE you go off trying to get certified as a card reader, healer or anything which offers you a quick way to be a practitioner. I have seen a number of people who have been fed a lot of nonsense including one who went for a healing session and got convinced to learn Reiki and being rather vulnerable and overwhelmed agreed. She came to be in such a state and took me a while to calm her down and bring her back to normal. I was told by my guides (my guides are not very chatty but they intervened straight away) that the teacher was not very experienced and had opened up a channel in this lady who was clearly not ready for such an experience. It also appears she was undulated with too much “whoo hoo” stuff which she didn’t understand. There are huge repercussions when people are not careful. Lives can be affected and people can get overwhelmed. 

You can get very carried away with everything and lose your focus sometimes. I try to surround myself with people with the same ethos as myself which is wonderful. I instigated a retreat for this weekend with a friend but things came up so I couldn’t go but seeing how it all panned it out has been lovely. Hopefully I will be doing the next one. Lots of healing, workshops, meditation, creativity and bonding in a cottage somewhere beautiful. Let me know if you want to come along to the next one. It will be in the UK and won’t take too long to drive to.

I intended to blog about something else entirely but as usual one of my guides took over and this is about guidance about working spirituality and hopefully it will help someone. The message is to be careful, take your time and do things properly, not just because it is easy! 

Today is the last of the super new moons of the year.  I have shared some insights here: https://www.facebook.com/angelamitchellmedium

Have a lovely weekend!

Mercury Retrograde….brings us closer to our life purpose

Mercury Retrograde….brings us closer to our life purpose

2016 is an important year for many reasons. The numbers 2,0, 1 and 6 comes up to 9 which has a strong spiritual vibration. It is a power packed number and thus brings about big changes to some of us. I see this in the wonderful people book in for a reading. More and more are coming to strong crossroads. This is a make or break year for some of us. You will be forced to face facts and seek your life purpose. No longer are you going to drift around and let life pass you by. You will want know your soul purpose and make things happen. How many of us saw this Facebook  status “I hope this year is going to be better. Last year was horrible” on NYE ? Perhaps it was you who posted it, after a frustrating year. Why do we go from one year to the next, feeling the same level of frustration and expect change to happen without changing any of our own behaviour patterns? Why doesn’t the new year clear the slate and allow us to start again after the clock strikes 12? The reason is simple.You carry forward the bad relationship, the angina, the financial issues and the horrible boss into every month, year or day. It doesn’t just go away because of change in time! I found a fantastic quote which made so much sense – “2016 is not going to change unless you do“. Let’s face it, time is almost like sand in your hands. What makes it tangible and interesting is the memories, the people, the emotions and the experiences. What makes it heavy and difficult is the challenges – losing people we love, dealing with health and emotional issues and difficulties. 

The problem will remain the same but how we deal with it, view it and work with it, influences your emotions and your life experience. There are different approaches to every problem, just like the man who encountered a huge rock on his path, he could either try to move the rock, climb it or walk around it. It all depends on his perspective and attitude. Seen as a huge challenge, then the choice is to give up or turn back. The shift here is to view the rock as a positive challenge to overcome, like how a mountain climber would. In this state of mind, the man would find ways to get to the other side. It took me a long time to get to the “other side” but it has made a huge difference to my life. It is never to late to change and shift your awareness . Once you change your perspective of life, things will get less complex and easier to manage. If a problem looks like a large slab of ice then you need to chip away at it until it breaks down and becomes  more manageable.  

2016 is going to bring complete turnabout in not only your own life situation but in your very soul and will touch you very deeply. You will see a shift in your own behaviour, be able to see things clearly and sense a departure from the old into the new. Challenges and situations will be thrown onto your path and you WILL have to face it. Sweeping it under the carpet is no longer an option but I sense a positive outcome so keep the fate. I am seeing more and more men and women facing relationship breakdowns, huge shifts in their emotions over their life right now who WANT to make changes but not sure of the why, what and whens.  Often the reason they sought the reading is different from what they actually needed to face or change. The clarity and direction in a psychic reading pulls out the disease not the symptom. Once you get to the core then it all makes sense. So many people walk through my doors with heavy hearts and leave with smiles, hugs and feeling lighter! This is one of the perks of the job, to see the begins of a transformation.

 You see, facing the truth doesn’t always need to be a bad thing. There are times in our lives when we have to get real and make changes to live a happier life. End of a relationship is huge but if it is to enable you to live the life you were meant to live, then its not a bad thing is it? What if your purpose was to open a cafe in southern Spain, bathe in warm sea water every morning and speak Spanish? What if your purpose was to retrain and become a teacher instead of a stay at home mum? What if you could be happier with someone who accepts you for who you are instead of the person who constantly criticises you for being who you are? Until you address your life purpose and break these behaviour patterns, you will always be in the “same zone”. The place where everything changes except for you.

Just drifting and “just being” is no longer good enough. Time to take charge and in charge! I am also seeing “spirituality” “Awakening” “intuition” “Angels” floating around a lot more in conversations and on social media. 2016 is a big year for us human beings. 

There is a huge shift in our consciousness and people are starting to wake up! We are all born with intuition, inner knowing and understanding  but it lays dormant until there is an “awakening”. Some of get it earlier on, like myself when I was a child I knew there was more to what i was seeing and feeling. I saw spirits, heard them and  messages kept rolling in. Others go through difficulty and then WHAM! something happens to open their third eye to the other realm. When I first moved to my town, I didn’t hear anything about spiritualism or mediums but now its exploding by the minute! I am so lucky to have a beautiful Angel who arranges one of the best Mind, Body and Spirit fayres around – Janine who showcases some of the area’s best psychics and mediums. Of course social media helps to engage people sitting on the fence as far as the spirit world is concerned. 

The number nine is the end of the phase so whatever that started one, two or three years ago, will come to completion. Whatever that no longer serves your highest good will come to an end. There will be new people, paths and clarity to take you one step closer to your highest purpose.   

The Mercury Retrograde in my humble opinion is the catalyst for change. Please read the article below and take note of the dates when this is expected to occur. Keep a note book or diary of what happens on these dates, strange dreams or messages and anything that happens e.g people you meet, conversations, opportunities etc. This will all be useful to piece together your soul’s true desire and intention.
 
http://www.astrologyzone.com/forecasts/mercury.html
 
If you would like to have more clarity, book in a reading with me and quote MERCURY2016 to get a 10% discount. Email info@angela-mitchell.co.uk 
 

The Mini Moon

Tomorrow’s moon is the smallest Full Moon of 2016, It is technically completing its phase at 6.24am tomorrow morning but you will see and feel its full effect tonight. Hopefully the skies will be clear for us to view the moon in Scorpio. The focus is on relationships and facing up to things we would rather keep hidden. It is all about standing up for yourself which will be a great teacher because you will be learning about yourself in the process. Your relationship with people around you, be it a love interest or friends and family will be test – for a positive change. Lots of options will pop up. Do you say something now or is it worth it? Keep going or time for change? Don’t rush into things because you think you have to, take a few deep breaths in difficult situations and try to keep calm. This is not a time to be impulsive.

Tonight is a great time to write your wishlist, smudge the house and leave your crystals out to energise in the moonlight.

Please share and let your friends and family know x

Guide to writing your intention/wishlist , energising crystals and smudging for full moons

Feeling the heat?

The lovely ‪#‎Elizabethperu‬ is spot on as usual. I saw a friend post something on her timeline the other day and I was given a few messages but I was experiencing some physical issues due to the ‪#‎metrograde‬ which I was trying to deal with so I was thinking about the message and how to help her. And then Ms Peru popped up on my screen just as I was thinking about it and it was an in your face moment. There is no such thing as a coincidence. I am passed it on to her and it made absolute sense! I was so relieved as I knew the message was spot on. Sometimes the ‪#‎universe‬ does work in mysterious ways and helps us out when we need it , even if it means using technology to push it in front of our face. But why not use technology?

We humans have evolved so much and our habits have moved from real life to online life. In the old days if you wanted to get a message to people, you would talk to people in religious places, open spaces or in small groups. You would get stories passed on through the generations or read books but all this is now more digital. The universe and the ‪#‎spirit‬ world has to adapt to reach us as the people who are moving into the spirit world are more advanced in knowledge and technology so the same approaches they would have used 30-40 years ago has to change. So don’t underestimate the messages you get via online.

The energies now is extremely strong. It can make or break you. As ms Peru states here, we are being pushed to our ‪#‎lifepurpose‬. You will see this through situations where you have a choice of speaking up or keeping quiet. This is life lessons – a time for you to truly see things for what they are, make changes if you feel its the right time to do so or to simply “let go” because its out of your control. It is about “understanding” and seeing things clearly.

The other symptom you may be seeing right now is the physical effects of the ‪#‎Mercurymetrograde‬. I am feeling it over a week or so. I have had pains and aches in different areas in my body and now I am left with a tension headache. Its very intense when it all happens and then disappears. Dreams have been extra lucid, intense and prophetic than usual.

I can’t help feeling really excited thought. I feel its going to be a really busy couple of months for all of us. You will feel like you have been “dropped into it” to sink or swim at times but that is the beauty of feeling your power.

Lots of love to you all and enjoy the sunny day here in ‪#‎maidenhead‬

Read Elizabeth’s full message here.  Scroll down past my message and view the link