Five ways to connect with Spirit this All Soul’s Day

I am sure you have heard the term “thinning of the veil” a lot in the last week. My inbox is full of emails with this in the subject line. I do find the word “veil” rather funny as it makes one think of Spirits hiding behind a curtain or veil!

Halloween or All Hallows Eve actually marks the thinning of the so called “veil” allowing our loved ones in Spirit to to be alongside the living. In some cultures, a place would be set at the table to invite them to a meal.

Often overlooked, All Soul’s Day which falls on Nov 2nd, or in Mexico known as – Día de los Muertos (The Day of the Dead) is the day when we feel their presence strongest. Day of the Dead is a celebration of the dead, with feasts, prayer and parades. This coincides with the Catholic All Saint’s Day on Nov 1st.

The veil starts to thin on Oct 31st and starts to diminish by Nov 3rd onwards.

Let’s talk about this “veil” My experience as a Medium with communicating with Spirits (and Guides), has taught me a lot about the Spirit World.

Spirit world is parallel with ours. We are taught to think of the afterlife as being in two different places – heaven and hell. I have no doubts there are different dimensions within the spirit world where souls are given an opportunity to learn, grow and heal however I don’t think I am alone in feeling that they are much closer to us than we think!

I have always felt the Spirit world is around us, separated perhaps with something as thick as glass. So they can hear and see us like we do sometimes but not all the time.

Occasionally this space in between becomes thin enough for Spirits to step through and make contact. A medium is able to see, hear and sense them enough to be able to pass on a message, share a memory and provide information about them.

Special occasions such as death anniversary, birthdays, and celebrations or when someone is calling for them, allows Spirit to step closer to us without the help of a Medium.

What is special about All Soul’s Day, All Hallows Eve and Samhain is that it allows ALL Spirit to move through the between space and into our energy field. So you can understand why the energy feels a little intense! Imagine being in an elevator full of people! It would feel a little congested wouldn’t it?

Now the thing to remember is that not all Spirits have the ability to communicate with us humans. We assume that once we are in Spirit that it would be natural to be able to speak to humans. Just like with humans, only some have the ability and others need a little training to tune in.

This is why people who encounter Spirit in their home experience different types of activities. For example some may actually see Spirit, other may hear voices, smells, things thrown, feel them, temperature changes, things moved around etc.

It is a combination of what the living is able to do (which Clair is active) and the Spirit’s own abilities e.g. knowing how to manifest, clairaudient, and any physical abilities to be able to move or touch items.

So what can we do to connect/communicate with our loved ones?  What can you do to welcome them?

A sweet offering for my mother who I lost in May 2020

Here is a list of rituals and things that can help you connect with our loved ones in Spirit:

Altar/ Offering

  • Create a temporary altar. You can use a side cabinet, table or corner. Cover it with a nice clean cloth if you like. Place your loved ones photos, candles and fairy lights if you’d like. I like to put some flowers in a vase next to them. An offering – I love to leave sweets for my parents usually from a variety box from an Asian shop in my town. You can put in regular shop sweets or make something at home. You can offer anything that you can eat afterwards but I would stay away from meat. Sweets particular have another meaning – Spirit offering you sweet blessings!
  • You can also leave a drink out for them! My dad loved whiskey so I make his drink – whiskey with a splash of water and one ice in his special glass. (I only use the glass for this purpose). My husband drinks it afterwards.
  • Light your candle, and light some incense if you have any. Put music on either one that reminds you of them or something relaxing. Close your eyes and sit close to the altar. Speak to your loved one in Spirit. Welcome them in your mind, to enter your space, to enjoy the sweets and to say hello. You can even ask them to make you feel their presence. You may find your body reacting to energy – goosebumps, feeling very emotional, a heaviness on the shoulder (as if someone put their hand on your shoulder) or just sense them.


  • You can simply light a candle infront of their photo and close your eyes and breathe in and out. Speak to them, ask them to make you feel their presence, to show you a sign.

Meditation/Energy Clearance

  • Another thing I do and something my mother used to tell me to do is to sage the house. In the early days we used frankincense to clear the energy. The use of Frankincense goes back to ancient Egyptians to India where it has been used since 3,600 BC. It is also used in Churches and part of most religions around the world. I always loved the scent and the smokiness. I also love sage but only Californian White Sage which has a very unique and cleansing feel to it.  Smudge the house with either, start from the front door to the around the house and back. You can put on some meditation/relaxing music as you do this (I have listed some of my favourites below).

Create time and space to sit quietly in meditation. Find a comfortable spot and sit down or lay down. Breathe in and out until you feel your body relax. Set your intention – ask your loved ones to come and join you. Ask them to allow you to feel their presence. Have some tissue next to you. I always cry when I do this!

Making Connections – Objects

  • Follow the meditation/energy clearance above to clear the energy and to settle into meditation. Alternatively you can just jump straight into the meditation guide. Have something of your loved ones – a watch, jewellery, clothing, toy, ornament, or even glasses close to you. Anything that would have their energy in it.  Leave some pen and paper next to you. As you set your intentions, hold the item in your hands and really feel the energy as you say your words. Visualise their smiling faces infront of you. Feel the palms of your hands that are holding the item. Feel how the energy from the item is blending with your energy. Just sit in this beautiful space – embrace any energy changes, any feelings that bubble up. You may be taken back to a memory of a time shared – acknowledge and see what they want you to see. Feel their presence. Talk to them. Keep breathing and just allow yourself to experience. Write down anything you felt, saw, sensed or heard during this time.


  • It is customary for Christians particularly to visit the graves of their loved ones on All Soul’s Day. I suppose you don’t have to be one to do this. Go ahead with flowers and candles if you are allowed to (I know some cemeteries have very strict rules on what can be placed on a grave).

The other way to honour and remember our loved ones is to make connections with our family. From my years of doing mediumship readings, all Spirit really want is their loved ones to be happy and the family to thrive. Heal any rifts, speak to each other and about your loved ones. I know I always feel my father very close when I start talking about him. Probably to make sure I get it right 😉

But in all honesty, do whatever that feels right for you and what is within your ability. Spirit don’t judge and they only want to communicate and reach out to us to because they miss us as much as we miss them.

Suggested music:

Do share your own rituals and traditions via the comment function or on Facebook. I love to hear from you!

Halloween – Veil lifts tonight between our worlds

Halloween – Veil lifts tonight between our worlds

Halloween – a time to remember our loved ones, be a little silly and celebrate our two worlds

Believed to have originated from the festival of Samhain, which was to celebrate the end of harvest and the beginning of winter, Halloween is so much more about pumpkins, gore and trick or treating.Based on a Pagan belief, that the doors to the “other realm ” opened therefore allowing for a closer relationship  between the the spiritual and physical world.Image result for samhain It was believed spirits were able to “visit” between the 31st and Nov 1st. Friends and family would offer a feast where they would invite their “spirit” loved ones to sit on places set for them at the table. 

This is not uncommon in Asian culture, where people offer up food and drinks that were favoured by their dead relatives. Instead of a place at the table, Indians in particular would mark each anniversary of their passing by setting a small area or table crammed with flowers, incense, food, sweets, drinks, fruits and lots of candles or divas near their photo. Prayers would follow and they would ask them to enjoy the offerings. After a suitable time, the food and edible items from the offering table would be distributed to everyone present. I do this for my father on his birthday and every anniversary of his death. 

If you think about it, our ancestors had very little science or outside information at this stage so they were led by all the things we take for granted now – the Sun, Moon, weather patterns. The most intriguing yet scary aspect of life was – death. The unknown triggered a range of rituals, spells, myths and superstition some of which still remains with us.

Samhain was in some ways, “letting go” of the old and being open to change. As autumn moves into winter, they would have had to start the process of preparing for the cold and dark. It is a little about ourselves as sometimes what gave us comfort, needs to be released as we move into a new form of existence. 

It was said that people would go around in homemade costumes to pretend to be the “spirits” hoping to get some food. Part of this would have been for fun and part, desperation as times were hard. Rituals, games, fires were lit and people were brought together to create noise and possibly dance. It would have brightened up the dark and cold night for sure!

This was over taken somewhat by the Christians and “All Souls’ Day was celebrated and of course in modern times, the commercial and expensive Halloween took over in popularity.  Both Samhain and All Souls’ Day is celebrated in a small scale by those who are either interested in Pagan/Gaelic festivals and by Christians who take the opportunity to visit graves of their loved ones.

We must keep in mind the true significance of this evening – the rainbow bridge between the two worlds is being built for our mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, children, grandparents, uncles, aunts and even Spirit guides, to reach our world. What wisdom or message will they have for us? Will they want to join you for dinner tonight? Show themselves to us? Come and look at the newborn grandchild in the crib to whisper word of love? Or will they appear in your dream tonight to encourage you to take the first step to change your ways? Be open to possibilities? Image result for halloween

Celebrate the commercial side of this day (I did over the weekend. I love dressing up!) but remember to take a moment between tonight and tomorrow to welcome you ancestors to your home, ask them to bless you with their wisdom and open your heart to their love.

It is not all about candy, costumes, fake blood and pumpkins. There is so much more to it.  This is a festival of LOVE. Bringing our two worlds together and feeling close to those who exist in a different world.

So what you can do to connect with them? Find a comfortable space in your home tonight, light a candle, incense and have a glass of water next to you. Leave a note pad and pen by your side, close your eyes and listen to my special guided meditation to help you connect with your loved ones :

.You will only need about 15mins to do this so give yourself this moment to enjoy the rainbow bridge to connect with your loved one.

Remember you are Spirit, you are LOVE, open your heart and your mind to shine out bright. Please do leave me a comment here or on my Facebook page. Share with friends and family if you feel they need a reminder.