How to stop listening to everyone else and start listening to YOU

How to stop listening to everyone else and start listening to YOU

How to tap into the intense energies of the Mercury Retrograde, New Moon and Solar Eclipse in August

What is your intuition telling you? If you want to understand what it means and how it will affect you, the best place to seek the answers is within YOU.

Listen to yourself at this powerful time. What are the issues that are cropping up, are people approaching you for answers, ad are you facing things that have annoyingly slipped out of the carpet that you so carefully hid under?

The New Moon encourages us to let go of all habits, patterns and even addictions to food, people and situations. This is the universe’s way of preparing us for the Full Moon energy which empowers us to take action to bring about chance.

Some of these issues will be difficult and sometimes even painful to face but trust me, there will be signals by the universe for good empowering opportunities. The best way to harness this energy is to listen, focus and take action.

If things are difficult, then understand that these are the issues you need to overcome, release and transform in order for you to move forward.

Picture a road. Visualise the issues, difficulties or negativity that you are facing now as mud or even quick sand. Now imagine this mud all over this road. Visualise yourself stuck in the middle of this.

Now think about your options:

  1. Stay where you are 
  2. Find a way out
  3. Blame someone
  4. Blame yourself

There is only ONE positive option and that is to find a way out by CHANGE. If you are stuck in the same old patterns or blame games then you are extending that pain and not moving forward. It is like playing a record again and again, like a broken record. You will go on loop and nothing will be different. I remember saying a while back that at the end of every year, say on the 30th or 31st of December, people will say things like “I hope this year will be different” on Facebook, hoping the New Year will bring change. But “nothing will change of you don’t change YOU”.

We fear change but if we look at change as transformational then we can also accept that it is empowering in some way too. If we see the positive in change then there is nothing to fear and everything to love.

At times these hard to face things like anger, resentment, failures and even health issues but they crop up for us to deal with differently each time. When you face them head on, then the transformation happens.

I sometimes get messages from my followers when I share my Moon Ritual guide, saying they hope something will change in their lives or that a situation will become easier. When I ask how they have dealt with the issue, they have no answers. They are hoping that by following my rituals that everything was going to magically happen.

No. You have to take action. Often the challenges are brought to you for to take action and break away from the norm.

Create your wish list, visualise yourself celebrating and feeling the things you wished for.  Ask for things that are realistic and ask for it in stages. The universe can only make things happen which are possible and things you can take action on.

For example if you want to buy a house, you must take action by viewing it, looking into your finances etc. You can’t magically own a house without doing the paper work or putting a bid in. Once you have made the physical move to “want” the house then the universe will have make it happen. For example help by a source of money you never even know existed appears to help you with the deposit.

Or someone asking for extra income takes action by say applying for a part time or freelance job which appears out of the blue. When your intuition tells you “it feels right”, or “do it” then take ACTION and listen to yourself!

The universe can help you by suggesting, prodding, putting things and people in front of you. But you have to listen, understand and take the opportunities. Pay attention to things you may view on social media and your devices. Remember the powers may be have to fight to get our attention these days compared to the old days when the stars, moon and sun were all they needed to pass on messages.

These days they have to compete with videos of cats, quotes, Humans of New York (which is brilliant by the way) and cooking channels. So when you see something inspiring or when your solar plexus start swirling, then listen to your inner compass.

There is only one person who can bring about change, YOU. There is only one person you need to listen to, YOU.

Exercise

If you want to focus on yourself, then sit quietly with some soft meditation music or just in the silence. Feel your breath – in and out. Breathe in and then hold for 3 counts and then release slowly. Keep doing this until your body feels lighter and relaxed.

Focus on your heart as you do this. Think of your heart and then feel the centre of your heart. Allow thoughts to come but think of them as clouds that float from left to right and then, float away.  

Put your earphones on and listen to my short audio recording which will help you through this exercise.  

As always please do drop me a message if you found this useful and if it resonated with you. If you want to learn more, please do sign up for my next workshop which is view-able on my Events page.

With love,

Angela

The New Moon on July 19th: Bold decisions and Balance

The New Moon on July 19th: Bold decisions and Balance

You would have seen the bright, sparkly and powerful moon last night if you looked up at the sky. The light radiating from it was strong, vibrant and crystal clear. I felt a sense of calm and also hope reach me through the air and into my body.

For most of us, the dust is just settling and we are making sense of the aftermath of events that occurred  the last full moon. There is more clarity coming our way and with the male energy that comes with it, the new moon will empower us to be more assertive. So don’t be surprised if you find yourself making bold decisions and walking just a little more taller than normal. The energy of this past year has been building your confidence and now is the time to shine.

Put your best feet forward and make plans. Believe that it will happen and trust yourself to take the appropriate actions to realise it. You will also feel your sacral chakra more active than normal.  Your Sacral chakra is in your lower abdomen, just below your naval. This is your second chakra and an important one as it controls the flow of energy and is essentially your “core”.  Each chakra has its dowsacral-chakran special sound and we are lucky that the pioneers of yoga and meditation in India have made so much information available for us in this generation to tap into. Here is a fantastic free sacral chakra VAM chant meditation. My favourite person DhyaanGuru Dr. Nipun Aggarwal who shares so much freely on the Internet, with the intention of helping people, explains it and chants it perfectly. Please set aside some time this week to sit in meditation.

Meditating to clear and and balance your Sacral Chakra 

Create a sacred space by burning incense, light a candle or if you have one, a Himalayan Salt lamp or tea light. Try to do this when you are alone and can be undisturbed for at least 15 – 30mins. The best way to really feel this mantra is to listen to it on your earphones as you can really connect with vibration of the chant. Place a crystal in your dominant hand. The best crystals to meditate to energise your sacral chakra is  amber, carnelian, citrine or orange calcite but if you don’t have any of those mentioned, just pick one that is orange or golden in colour.  Cleanse it first by smudging it or with some incense. You will be thirsty when you finish the meditation so keep a glass of water next to you. Watch out for subtle messages or signs in your dreams that night. Always keep a notebook next to your bed so you can write it all down when you wake up.

Trust me, this is powerful, amazing and beautiful! If you have sudden urges to empty your bladder then do not fear as your body is cleansing and releasing. Please ensure you drink plenty of water. Lemon water in the mornings is great for the digestive system and for health. Obviously take care if its a symptom of a medical condition and check with your doctor if it continues for more than a week. This chakra is important for your brain’s well being in a way. It helps you with your ideas, starting new projects and also with creative endeavours. It also helps you balance your emotions and encourages healthy relationships with people around you.  sage

So the full moon appears in our skies tomorrow night at 11:57pm. If you can do it, please smudge your house and do your full moon ritual and then meditate. If you want to learn more about how to manifest and my moon rituals then don’t forget to sign up to my workshop in September.

Hope you have enjoyed reading my blog and learning more about tomorrow’s moon. Please feel free to leave me a comment or get in touch if you have feedback or questions.

 

Getting the most out of 2016

Getting the most out of 2016

Hope everyone had a lovely Christmas with family and getting ready to usher in 2016 in style. I can’t wait to be counting down and sharing a toast with friends tomorrow night. 2015 has been a really full on year with a lot of highs but with some small lows as well. But such is life isn’t it?  For me, its a balance of both, take the learning lessons from the lows and appreciate the highs. It has been an amazing year of awakening, clarity and guidance for me. I have been so humbled by the wonderful spiritual gifts and new doors opened for me this year. Its been full of lovely people, experiences, learnings, teachings and even travel. I can’t wait for the wonderful things coming to me next year and lots of things are in motion as we speak.

I have had many messages asking for guidance on how to prepare for 2016.  I love messages and sharing my insight so please don’t hesitate to send me a message for ideas for my blog.

Spiritual guidance on preparing for 2016

There is two aspects to this. It is a good idea to get your house ready for the new year. I want to share with you something my mother used to tell me. First of all, as you may know, I grew up in Malaysia and my parents were of mixed religion – Roman Catholic and Hindu. I have relatives who are Buddhist, Muslim, atheist, Baptist and Sikh. So a sort of United Nations of religion and race.  I never knew where religion started and tradition ended when it came to our rituals back when I was growing up. My mother would insist that we clean up the house, the patio and garden a few days before Christmas. We would clean the house, throw or give away unwanted things. My mother would also heat up charcoal pieces on the stove and place them in a small stoneware burner. Fankincense resin would then be thrown on to the charcoal. This would result in an explosion of beautiful scented smoke which would fill the air all around. Till this day I love the smell of frankincense and even have incense which I used in my therapy room.

My mother told me it was to cleanse the house and get it ready for Mahalakshmi the deity of wealth. A clean and bright house would attract the deity to bless it with good luck and fortune. 

Mahalakshmi

Mahalakshmi – Hindu Goddess of wealth, fortune, and prosperity (both material and spiritual).

This concept of cleaning and clearing stuck with me. In fact its instinct that I reach for the vacuum cleaner  a few days before a full moon or a special day.  Here are some of the things you can do to create a welcoming house for the universe! 

Shout out to the Universe that you are ready for abundance and 2016! 

Preparing your home:

1. Clean and declutter – get the house tidy and ready. Give away unwanted clothes and shoes. You don’t need the clutter and you will need the space for the new year. 

2. Sage – Do this tonight or on the 31st or 1st. Make sure you turn the smoke alarm off while you do it and turn it on a few hours after the smoke has settled down. I used an old clean plate to hold my sage, a candle and a medium sized shell to rest the lighted sage. The candle is useful as the sage tends to burn out .  I found lighters uncomfortable to keep lighted. You can use the candle flame to relight the sage as you go around the rooms.  I used good quality white Californian sage sticks. 

3. Prayer: As you start off, ask Archangel Michael to ground you and to surround you with his cloak of light. Do this before you start smudging the house. You can say anything you want but this is a powerful prayer I wrote a while ago which a number of people have come back to say has helped. Prayer for Life 

Preparing You:

1. How can you invite anyone or anything into your life if its full? Take a look at the dramas in your life, who instigated them and why it happened. Is there a learning lesson somewhere? What can you do about it in 2016? Can you change the way you dealt with situations or do you need to just stop letting people into your life who abuse your kindness?  One thing you would want to avoid though is posting negative posts on social media. There are plenty of those “I am going to have genuine friends” ,”get rid of my negative friends”quotes floating around in social media at the moment.  I feel these generate negativity both for yourself and the people who read it. Deal with things in private and directly.  No need to tell all your 300 or more friends that you are doing a FB cull. Why cause so much hurt for something that doesn’t concern them? I say this from experience so don’t think I am saying it for the sake of saying it. I learned from it and so can you. Negativity is like fat (I should know!). So easy to get but so hard to get rid off! Negativity gets stuck in your mind, your body and in the spiritual layer. I see a lot of this when I do my healing work. It can manifest in a physical as well as mental manner. Stop absorbing negativity so you can welcome more positivity in your life.

2. Meditate – I know its a busy few days for all us but take a minute or two to meditate. You only need earphones and some meditation music or guided meditation so you could do it on a train, before you go to sleep or even in the living room. Obviously don’t do it while cooking or driving. There may be some guidance or clarity given to you during meditation or even just a few moments for Spirit to gather close to you. If you feel cold spots or sensations during meditation, don’t stop…..just enjoy the moment. This is my favourite meditation channel on youtube.

3. You can also ask for guidance and help just before you go to sleep on the 30th, 31st or the 1st.  Think about a goal or plan which you have for 2016 or a problem that may stand in your way in achieving your dreams. Now call on the Angels, spirit guides and/or your spirit family e.g family you have in spirit. Ask them for clarity and guidance for a way forward. Pay attention to any messages, thoughts, images or dreams you may have that night.

4. Be Wishful but grateful. We are so focused on cosmic ordering and asking that we forget to say THANK YOU! Be grateful of everyday we wake up alive! I remember watching Dr Wayne Dyer’s the Shift a while back and wondered why he said “Thank You” the moment he woke up. It hit me later that he was saying thank you for another day of human life. It was more meaningful watching it again this year after his passing.  His words were so powerful and life changing but he remained humble and grateful. Do your wishlist for 2016 but add a gratitute list on the bottom for all the things you were thankful for in 2015. You can go out to the garden and burn it (safely) to send it off to the universe or leave it on your window. Or leave your list on an altar or a scared space. 

5. Welcome 2016 – Start your New Year first day with positive intend and in a positive manner. I know its difficult being positive if 2015 has been a dififcult and sad year. Put the intention out that you want to have a good year by being positive and keeping your mind clear from negativity. 

What not to do on New Year’s Day:

  • Try not to clean the house on Jan 1 – my mother always says its bad luck to clean the house — its like wiping the good luck away!
  • Avoid spending money – again my mother says you will be spending money all year. So the more money you can keep in your wallet today, the better for you financially.
  • Keep communication positive. Avoid difficult topics, arguments or negativity.

Happy New Year!

I hope 2016 brings you abundance in every way – love, prosperity, luck and peace. May it also bring you closer to your soul purpose 

Believe that 2016 will be FANTASTIC! 

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How to Start Loving Yourself and Be Happy in 10 steps

How to Start Loving Yourself and Be Happy in 10 steps

I woke up this morning with a message for all of us. It’s so easy to forget about the most important person in our lives….”me”. Hope this lifts you up today x  #love  #spiritual #allstartswithme

Love yourself

It sounds easy this whole “love yourself” thing but how do you do it and what does it mean? I’ve heard people say this years and years ago when I was going through the stages of hating myself, being emotionally disconnected to the point that I was self destructive. It never made sense and seemed too easy for someone who couldn’t possible understand what I was going through, to tell me to “love yourself”  Are you supposed to simply wake up one day and declare “I LOVE myself? I have slowly come to realise through my own personal journey that it is NOT selfish to put yourself first and to be kind to the person who is ultimately the most important person in YOUR life – YOU. 

Because I was so disconnected with my self, I went though most of my life being an eager beaver – you know the type who over extends oneself to please others, say yes to things because you are afraid of letting people down and then regret it later as it will compromise your time or your priorities in one way or the other. I attracted the wrong type of people and experienced a lot of heartache by people who made me feel sad, used and broke my confidence into tiny little pieces. I also used to spend very little time on my own and instead crammed every waking hour in the company of people and kept busy. It was as if I hated to be alone or lonely. Now that I have stepped back from myself, I can see symptoms of this in other people and I regret being in that frame of mind.

I am happier being on my own. In fact I thrive in it! It makes me appreciate the time I spend with my friends and family even more. I pick and choose who and when I spend time with so I am not giving away too much of my energy, draining my resources and ensuring that its quality over quantity. In the age of Facebook and the numbers game, it does feel like there is pressure on us to be someone to everyone, have lots of friends and be everywhere to be seen and heard. How many times have you said or felt …… “it made me realise who my friends really are? What does that mean? Your expectation was not met. Not everyone will respond or reciprocate in the way you expect them to. There have been many times over the years where I have bend over backwards to fulfill my obligations but I cannot say the same when it came to doing something back for me. I had to question two things – why was I over extending myself and why people weren’t doing the same for me? Well the truth of the matter is that people get spoiled when you keep giving. When you don’t appreciate yourself enough, you end up making up for it by being a crowd-pleaser and people feed off that energy. As for why I wasn’t getting anything in return – I was probably hoping that by over giving, people would love and appreciate me ….ultimately making me feel better about myself. It was like being on the ledge – its a very temporary feeling of safety and yet one false step and you are in danger! Unfortunately the more you give, the less you get. So take care of self, be kind to yourself and then your giving will be more meaningful and there will be less expectations on your part. The result ? Less resentment and heartache for you.

My spiritual journey helped me get to the core of my issues and I learned to love myself. I realised everything starts from and ends there. I realised where I was going wrong. It helped me to be more comfortable in my skin and love myself more. Here are some practical steps to your journey to make the important changes that will lead you to the same place …..

So what does “Love yourself” mean to me?

  1. My time is precious. It is okay to be discerning by picking and choosing what I want to be involved in. 
  2. It is okay to say no sometimes. No one is going to hate or dislike you for it. If they do then its a reflection of their own issues, not yours
  3. Spending time on my own. Learn to sit and do nothing occasionally or opt for a night in with food you love and a book/film or music that makes you feel good. Find your comfort zone and you will start appreciating this quiet time. 
  4. Reconnecting with self is ultimately the easiest and best way forward – remind yourself of what you were passionate about when you were younger. Look at what you can do to take action on it. For example, I used to love art but lost my way throughout the years and I realised how much I missed it a few years ago. It started with a sketch book and a pencil and now I have developed my creativity to the point people want to buy my work! 
  5. Do things that make you happy. Start with this and then extend it to helping others and being there for others. If you only concentrate on giving then you will never be able to take occasionally.
  6. Make a happy list. Get some paper and pen and write down things that make you happy – music, food, travel, places, coffee, people. books, films etc. Every now and then when you feel low — go back to this list and pick one item from the list and do it — an easy pick you up! 
  7. If you don’t want to do something or can’t do it….be honest and say so. Don’t complicate life by saying yes and then fretting over it later. 
  8. Prioritise yourself – stop putting yourself last on the list! Put yourself on the top of the list sometimes. It is not selfish to look after yourself and your needs. You are of no help to anyone if you are worn out and bitter!
  9. Mirror image – the best way to love yourself is to spend a few minutes each day looking at yourself in the mirror. Accept every flaw, every wrinkle and imperfection. Love every perfect sparkle and shine that emits from your face. Love the depth of your eyes, every fleck and the light that goes straight into your soul. Do this often and you will see small changes in how you feel about yourself.
  10. Start cutting the cord with people who have you feel unworthy. Create three columns on a piece of paper. On the first column, title it name, 2nd column is for “positive feelings” and name the last one – “negative feelings”. Now put down the first name that comes to mind and then feel the person and how the affect you. Is it a negative or positive feeling? Fill it with as much or as little information. Now go back and look at the name and see how that person has an effect on your life. Is it a positive or negative impact? Are you happy to have this person in your life? Write down what you can do to change this feeling. Talk to them? Avoid them or change the way you react to them. Believe me this is a powerful and very pragmatic way to filter through and declutter your life. It also takes the emotion out of the process as you are working on a very visual and practical way.

I hope this will be the start of the healing process for you. Lots of love x Angela

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Moon Rituals

Moon Rituals

Guide to writing your intention/wishlist , energising crystals and smudging for full moons

There are certain times in the year when the universe opens a door to release such a force of energy which allows for transformation, for us to “let go” of the old and bring in the “new”, The most common and known time is the days before, during and after a full moon and even more during supermoons.  The energy that allows us to manifest our heart’s desire is amplified. 

Full moons are the perfect time to keep your thoughts positive and to think about what you truly need to make your life better. It may be more abundance in the form of money, happiness, a new house or a promotion, baby or a new partner. Put your heart into it and you will be surprised at what you get back.  Keep the faith as at times, the small things appear in your life first to make way for the big ones. How they happen is up to the universe. 

Magic happens when you let it go – Angela Mitchell 

You have probably heard and read about “wish lists” “Intentions” “letter to the universe” and wondered two things –  and wondered “what the heck are people talking about? and, “how do I go about doing it? I used to make a wish on full moon nights way before I heard of wishlists and cosmic ordering. As a child growing up in Malaysia to a Hindu mother and a Roman Catholic father, I was exposed to superstitions, traditions and myths from both religions and cultures from a young age. Astrology and the phases of the moon feature largely in Hinduism and all good events – weddings, buying a house or making decisions are often done after consulting an astrologist for the perfect date and time. I have always felt the energy of the moon and the universe as a child and I loved watching the night sky. There was something very magical and like most of all, a clear, crisp view of the glowing energy of the mysterious moon made me feel like I was as close as I could be to the heavens.

The following is what I do and believe in. You will have plenty of different opinions and ways to do things. There is really no right or wrongs here. So take what you like and leave what you don’t. 

The night before the Full Moon

Intention List/Wishlist, Letter to the Universe, Shopping List etc 

Call it what you will but it is simply, a list of what you would like to happen in your life. The top five things you feel you need to live a happy, comfortable and full life. Do it before you go to sleep the night before the full moon. Make it positive and also put in your gratitude for what you have.

 

Try to be positive and be grateful for what you have as well. Would you continue to help someone who is arrogant, spiteful, demanding, negative, ungrateful or rude?  Not many people would!  So be careful of how you word it. You can be as descriptive and exact as you would like.

For example:

Relationship – I would like to meet a kind, caring and secure man. Must have permanent job with own money and independence, must own his house,  have  enough money to not worry about it. Love travelling and likes watersports. Someone who is positive and energetic. Must get along with my family.  Someone who enjoys walking in the woods and likes my cooking. 

Work – I would like a new job with a more leadership role. Location – maximum 45mins from my home. Salary must be above £50.000 and have a good work culture. I would like a role that allows me to work from home at least one day a week. I would like change jobs by December.

Leave it on your altar or on your window which is likely to get the full rays of the moon the night before the full moon. If you have crystals then please put it on top of your note. Get your family especially your children to write their list as well. It is a great way for them to focus on their priorities and learn more about energy and manifesting.

On the night of the full moon 

Go out and look at the moon. Doesn’t matter if it is cloudy or if you can’t see it from your garden or front of the house. Its there and its energy will reach you. Ask for help, guidance and feel the energy from the moon’s healing light.

  • Wishlist: Get a clean flower pot or something fire proof to burn the papers in. You can throw in some lose sage leaves in the fire before setting your wishlists on fire. Do it individually and wait until its fully burnt before the next person burns theirs. Close your eyes and concentrate on what you have asked for. Thank the universe for all that you have and ask for help to manifest the list.Do not speak to each other when you are doing this. Close your eyes and look up to the sky and feel the energy. Pay attention to any thoughts or messages that pop into your mind’s eye. Don’t underestimate the power of the Moon and the universe. Answers and solutions become unlocked during these times. If you can’t burn the wishlist then leave it on the window where the mooon rays will hit or on an altar with the crystals on top. 
  • 2. Crystals: Full moons are the best time to energise and clean your crysEnergising crystals tals. Put them in a clean transparent bowl. I have a crystal bowl which I use for this purpose but you can use any clear glass bowl or a plastic bag if you can’t find one. Pour in some cooled down boiled water or mineral water into the bowl and cover with cling film.  This protects the crystals from any birds or animals that may get to them during the night. I’ve been doing this for ages and never had a problem. The best way to energise them is to leave them outside but you can also leave them on a window sill if don’t have a garden. Leave them overnight to get the full light of the moon. Bring it in the next day and use the emergised water to water the plants or just wash your face with it. Put your crystals on a paper towel to let them dry out on a table or near the window. They are now fully energised and ready to be used! If you have crystal jewellery then just wash them with the energised water form the other crystals. I am not sure how metals take to being submerged in water. I just give my pendants and rings a little wash with the moon water.

Sage/Smudge

Smudging your house on or before the night of a full moon is to me, is like cleaning your house before you have a party. You want to get rid of the rubbish and make way for a fun event. It is exactly the way I see it. Cleanse your house to renew the energy in your house before you harness the energy of the new moon. Get some good quality Californian white sage, don’t worry if you don’t have anything fancy to put it in. Honestly all I have is a old plate, a medium large shell I found on a beach a while back to rest the sagsagee on. I have a small candle on it so I don’t have to keep burning my finger on the lighter to keep it alight! (You live and learn!) Begin by asking Archangel Michael to ground and protect you. Ask him to surround you with his healing light. Start at the front of the house and face north. Leave the windows open and if its winter, two – one facing the front drive and the other facing the garden. Walk around the house and try to spread the smoke to each and every corner of the house. Keep a clear and positive mind when you do this. Don’t think about anything. Just focus on the light of the candle if need be to keep your focus. If you feel anything negative surrounding you, then ask it to go to the light. finish by putting fire in the sage out by rubbing it out in the shell or plate. Don’t forget to disable the smoke alarm before you light the sage as the smoke will trigger the alarm! Give it a few hours and then reactivate the alarm again. Better to be safe than to be sorry!

Pay attention to the messages that come through your dreams, people, ideas, solutions and synchronistic events in your life.

Happy Manifesting! Feel free to share with your family and friends. Do let me know if you found this article useful.