When Spirit makes things happen…..

When Spirit makes things happen…..

Today was a rather emotional day for me. I lost touch with a friend I know socially but only found four years ago that she had lost her fight with cancer.
When I met her about seven years ago, she had been in remission for a while and back to leading a normal life. Such a lovely, positive and cheerful lady who brought smiles to everyone. I still have her messages and her cards to my husband and I for our engagement.
Such a beautiful, kind and friendly lady taken too soon. Anyways I messaged one of her close friends though Facebook to find out where her final resting place was.
I never got a reply so I just assumed that it had been a year since she passed and perhaps the friend found it too emotional to respond and left it.
For the past week or so, I have had this urge to go visit this particular cemetery in Braywick. In fact I kept getting messages about it and the words hanging heavy in my mind. But I just put it to my fascination with cemeteries.
I love wandering around the graves, speaking to them and reading the messages of headstones. You can learn so much about the history of an area and the people by the messages, dates and names.
This morning I received a response from her friend who never saw that message I sent four years ago.Reaching out
Guess where my friend was buried? The very same cemetery that has been calling to me. Needless to say I dropped all plans this morning and made my way there. My friend wanted to be “found”.
As I got into the car, a voice said “white roses” and I rushed over to the nearest florist to get some. In my eagerness to visit her, I forgot to ask her friend where to look for her grave!
So imagine me wandering around thousands of headstones in the cemetery looking for her name. I was so emotional that I even forgot her surname! Luckily her friend responded to my frantic messages and pointed me to the right direction. I placed the flowers by her and paid my respects. She was with her mom and dad so I said hello to them too! I felt peace, gentleness and love around her. 
I always say that Spirit intelligence is superior and the learning never stops. I decided today that I need to take my thoughts or messages more seriously. Isn’t it remarkable that I was getting messages about the cemetery a week before a message that was lost in the system for four years dropped into my lap? My sense is that she wanted to be found and there is one more thing I am aware of but not at liberty to discuss here right now. Image result for white roses
Earlier, I passed by a gentleman’s grave and I heard him say he “didn’t quite believe in mediums” and I said “well I can’t make you believe in anything you aren’t ready to believe in. However how do you think I can speak to you then? He explained he was very scientific and pragmatic so it was still a mystery to him. I can’t remember his exact date of passing but he has been in spirit for many years. I know from my experience with my dad that despite being spiritual he was terribly skeptical about it so he continues to be so in Spirit.
It was an interesting day to say the least. I found some messages from her which uplifted and made me smile. Thank you for reaching out to me. 
So if you keep thinking about someone, a place or anything that hangs heavy in your mind then try to address it. Write it down in your journal and see what happens. Is someone reaching out to you? Are they giving you a sign or message ? 
The New Moon on July 19th: Bold decisions and Balance

The New Moon on July 19th: Bold decisions and Balance

You would have seen the bright, sparkly and powerful moon last night if you looked up at the sky. The light radiating from it was strong, vibrant and crystal clear. I felt a sense of calm and also hope reach me through the air and into my body.

For most of us, the dust is just settling and we are making sense of the aftermath of events that occurred  the last full moon. There is more clarity coming our way and with the male energy that comes with it, the new moon will empower us to be more assertive. So don’t be surprised if you find yourself making bold decisions and walking just a little more taller than normal. The energy of this past year has been building your confidence and now is the time to shine.

Put your best feet forward and make plans. Believe that it will happen and trust yourself to take the appropriate actions to realise it. You will also feel your sacral chakra more active than normal.  Your Sacral chakra is in your lower abdomen, just below your naval. This is your second chakra and an important one as it controls the flow of energy and is essentially your “core”.  Each chakra has its dowsacral-chakran special sound and we are lucky that the pioneers of yoga and meditation in India have made so much information available for us in this generation to tap into. Here is a fantastic free sacral chakra VAM chant meditation. My favourite person DhyaanGuru Dr. Nipun Aggarwal who shares so much freely on the Internet, with the intention of helping people, explains it and chants it perfectly. Please set aside some time this week to sit in meditation.

Meditating to clear and and balance your Sacral Chakra 

Create a sacred space by burning incense, light a candle or if you have one, a Himalayan Salt lamp or tea light. Try to do this when you are alone and can be undisturbed for at least 15 – 30mins. The best way to really feel this mantra is to listen to it on your earphones as you can really connect with vibration of the chant. Place a crystal in your dominant hand. The best crystals to meditate to energise your sacral chakra is  amber, carnelian, citrine or orange calcite but if you don’t have any of those mentioned, just pick one that is orange or golden in colour.  Cleanse it first by smudging it or with some incense. You will be thirsty when you finish the meditation so keep a glass of water next to you. Watch out for subtle messages or signs in your dreams that night. Always keep a notebook next to your bed so you can write it all down when you wake up.

Trust me, this is powerful, amazing and beautiful! If you have sudden urges to empty your bladder then do not fear as your body is cleansing and releasing. Please ensure you drink plenty of water. Lemon water in the mornings is great for the digestive system and for health. Obviously take care if its a symptom of a medical condition and check with your doctor if it continues for more than a week. This chakra is important for your brain’s well being in a way. It helps you with your ideas, starting new projects and also with creative endeavours. It also helps you balance your emotions and encourages healthy relationships with people around you.  sage

So the full moon appears in our skies tomorrow night at 11:57pm. If you can do it, please smudge your house and do your full moon ritual and then meditate. If you want to learn more about how to manifest and my moon rituals then don’t forget to sign up to my workshop in September.

Hope you have enjoyed reading my blog and learning more about tomorrow’s moon. Please feel free to leave me a comment or get in touch if you have feedback or questions.


Why Spirits appear to us even after rituals and ceremonies

Why Spirits appear to us even after rituals and ceremonies

I was chatting with a friend the other lady about religious/cultural rituals for the dead and spirits. She was under the impression that the Hindu rituals were to release the soul to the next life or place so they wouldn’t haunt or come back to our physical world. This was a very interesting topic for me as I have said before, my mom came from a very strict Hindu background while my dad was a Roman Catholic. We are closet Hindus though was my paternal grandmother and that side of the family did not like us “mixing religions”. I know my dad resonated more with Hinduism and the rituals probably because he spent a lot of time studying and travelling in India. He was also very spiritual and a great follower of yoga, meditation and self awareness. He had in his lifetime met some of the most important yogis and spiritual gurus and learned almost every meditation or yoga technique. This is before it all became trendy and hip. It was the time when yoga, meditation and spirituality was a holistic approach to life . Despite the peer pressure to not practice Hinduism, my mother always managed to sneak in a temple trip, a ritual here and a prayer there. 

As a result I was lucky enough to witness and take part lots of rituals, from new born baby ceremonies to sending off the dead and even coming of age rituals. Some of which I understand and accept but I still never understood why I had to down glasses of raw eggs with castor oil for a month when I first got my period. It was sheer torture and I still gag when I see raw eggs. Ewwww! Apparently the old wives tale was that the mixture helps to aid childbirth. Protein from the eggs for nutritional reasons, to give you strength and the castor oil supposedly helps baby’s journey into the world smoother. I could be wrong but how is force feeding a 14 year old help labour years later? Jury is out on this one for me. But you see there is such so many different rituals, ceremonies, myths and old wive tales to navigate through and this is not just for Indians or Hindus, its in almost every culture, religion or country around the world. 

The rituals for the dead in Hinduism is to be a great send off. It is such a beautiful and sacred time for the living to bond with the dead. I always found cremation as the most sensible and quietly satisfying way for the dead to leave us. I remember my dad feeling extremely guilty about not visiting his dad and years later, his mom’s grave. There was pressure to ensure the graves were maintained and squabbles within the family about who should take responsibility. It almost felt that “grandma or grandpa was there – just under neath the moss covered head stone. There was so much emphasis on the grave that we forget they are with us all the time and everywhere. In fact they are least likely to hover around their grave when they no longer have the connection to their physical form.

My father had a Christian funeral leading up to the crematorium. I still choke up when I hear Amazing Grace. Brings me back to the church where I sat like I had a huge stone in my stomach. The Hindu ceremony was a serene, peaceful and spiritual affair. We drove a long way on a narrow road to a different town with my dad’s ashes. I was a little apprehensive about having his ashes so close but remember, I was still resisting my spirituality in those days.  We had a car load of flowers, incense, fruits and a long list of things the priest had asked us to bring including his payment.  We arrived at a very humble shrine set precariously on the edge of a very fast moving river. My brother, as the son was asked to put on a “vaisti” and take his shirt off. The priest put on a thick thread around him and did some special prayers to “protect” him. Obviously now I do question why he needed protection as my dad was unlikely to want to hurt his beloved son and spirits vibrate on love not hate.

We watched as they both waded into the middle of the river which was tricky as the stones underneath were slippery and the undercurrents strong. They poured his ashes into a brass container and the priest chanted mantras as my dad was released to the river. As my brother poured him little by little into the water, the light grey cloud blended into the water, turning dark and then disappear as quickly as they appeared.

And suddenly dawn  broke and a ray of light hit my brother and the brass container he was holding so we were all dazzled with golden light for a minute. And then a flock of birds appeared out of no where and flew up in the sky and away. It was the most beautiful moment of my life and I cried but it was from happiness. I knew right then and there that my dad was free and in peace. I saw it as a send off, the best way to let him go on to whatever came next.  

The conversation I had with this lady was about rituals Hindus such as these. Proper Hindu rituals would have more to it than what we did for my dad but they have a similar purpose. I found a beautiful article on this which was an interesting read.

Back to the question about these rituals serving a purpose e.g so they won’t come back and why and how spirits communicate with Mediums, well the answer is simple. These rituals are simply man made ceremonies which were put into place as a way for the living to say goodbye and send off their loved ones who have passed.  In the stone age, I can only assume that when someone died, they would either leave them somewhere far away or bury them. But then people would have found it really difficult to cope with the loss – of their presence, their laughter and personality around them. Not being able to reach out and touch someone, knowing you will never be able to do so is a huge part of the grieving process. Eventually mankind realised they had to do something to mark the passing of another human being and every culture and religion have their own way of saying goodbye. 

Hindus have very specific rituals to follow when someone has passed and the first year anniversary for example is a big event. There is lots of things to buy, make, cook and prepare and people to invite. Food is cooked and a separate setting with food, drinks and lot of ceremonial items placed near the persons’ photo. After a long and very intensive prayer session, everyone sits down for a meal. Tears are shed, stories told and hearts full of memories.

The spirit world appreciates such gestures and look down on these days with fondness but they need nothing except our love and to be remembered.  They don’t come back to us to haunt us but only to say hello and to let you know they still love and care.

Why do they “come back” ? Wouldn’t you if you had a chance to speak through a medium or to visit the family to see how they are getting on? It always boils down to “what would you do if you had the chance?  They don’t actually come back but merely a moment occurs where they can see us and realise they are able to communicate. Its like a veil has lifted and a special flash second of love between the two worlds is possible.

Put what you have been told about the dead, death and the spirit world — just open your hearts to the possibilities. 

Build the rainbow bridge with love, don’t destroy it with fear – Angela Mitchell 

Spiritual Development Insights

My job gives me access to people’s lives and experiences. People open up about the “paranormal” things that happen or their own spiritual experiences without fear of judgement. Who am I to judge? I get judged all the time as someone who is offering a personal service to bridge the gap between us and the Spirit world. I do get funny looks, snide remarks and the occasional nasty message from the non believers. Sometimes it hurts because it can get very personal and but most of the time, I feel sorry for them, as they are so quick to dismiss something that could bring so much clarity and comfort. But it doesn’t matter as I know who I am and where I stand with the people who love me and the Spirit world who support me in my work. I have been taught by some of the best mediums in the UK and the US as well as those accredited by the Spiritualists’ National Union ( with whom I hope to continue my education in the near future) who are all very tough and rigorous in their teachings. 

So, never feel apprehensive or scared of contacting me to ask questions or spiritual guidance. All my workshops for example are  fantastic places for people struggling with their spirituality to come forward to learn but also to share their experiences, no matter how weird. Part of my mission is to help people feel comforted rather than to “fear” spirit. We have been forced fed myths about spirit and the spirit world for centuries. All based on FEAR and prejudice. The moment you are different and can see or know something others don’t, then you get labelled as witches or charlatans who were sometimes used by the higher powers and then prosecuted. Personally I think people in the olden days who were spiritually aware were extremely vulnerable, had no role models, didn’t know how to use their gifts and ended up being overbearing at times. They would have either been elevated to God like status instantly and once the “power” diminished possibly due to not taking care of themselves or just having self doubt which happens when we are under a huge amount of stress put on by people’s expectation, deemed a charlatan and prosecuted. So we have been conditioned to fear and to be skeptical. I think its a good thing to be skeptical. It may surprise you but I am pretty skeptical. I am not a very “airy fairy”  and like to keep it simple.Children seeing ghosts

As a natural born medium who has gone through training to refine my abilities, I am very much aware of the do’s and don’ts. Once I hear someone say they have been to a reading which was like a “counselling session” for example, I know that is what it was, a counselling session, not a reading! During training, we are taught to be careful not to impose our own opinions or thoughts into the reading. The clarity is given either by spirit themselves or through the person’s soul via the psychic link. It is important for the reader to know when they are working psychic and when their own thoughts are clouding their messages. I remember during a workshop I was teaching when a lady who was in fact a counselor, veered off from a reading into a counselling session. She was really surprised as she had no idea she was tapping into her own thoughts but instead thought she was working psychic with cards. I think being a tad skeptical in my industry is a good thing as it keeps me grounded and also helps me keep a level head. A friend of mine who does sound healing and I were discussing how easy it is to get certificates for things like tarot reading and sound healing. We even found some below £30 which you can do online and get a certificate in less than two weeks!  In all honesty, you can teach yourself tarot or Angel cards.

12671934_1672347756386406_388656568295542139_oThere are two ways to do it – read the books page to page and you can use a system to know what the card indicates – relationships, positive or negative, is  it  major or minor Arcana which gives you a clue about what is happening in their lives etc. There is no huge mystery with cards – its based on the Law of Attraction. Your soul helps to pick the cards for you using the energy infused into them during the shuffle. There is a system which if you master you can read a person’s circumstances to a tee. As I was taught to use it differently,as a psychic tool in my lessons, and because I am lazy, I never really took the time to read too much into the cards. I prefer to work with them psychically and to use Angel cards but put away the manual which comes with it. I say what drops into my minds eye, how I feel about the card, what I see in my third eye. This is a little harder because you really have to trust yourself here as it has to be pure. I am like a child who has been give a bag of candies when the sitter can relate to the messages. It does get interesting when talking to other psychics or medium and they interpret the cards completely different to how I do and vice versa. Also the same card can have different meanings or messages for different people. There is no right or wrong way to do it, as long as the sitter gets the messages they need. 

But the key is you need practice, be face to face with a teacher, spiritual abilities and understand the fundamentals of providing readings to the public. You will make mistakes and a teacher can help you refine your way of working, explain things to you and see where you need help. You don’t get that on an online course! 

Your words can break or shape someone’s life. You must take time to get acquainted with the cards, with your own personal spirituality and know how to use your abilities before you can even venture into making a living from this. This is why you do have people who are very skeptical about people in this industry. My friend was aghast at the very thought that you could be a qualified sound therapist online without the “teacher” even hearing how the student works with element or their energies!  

You MUST work on your own spiritual gifts first,understand what you have, what the difference are so you know what you are doing, get a feel of your spiritual path BEFORE you go off trying to get certified as a card reader, healer or anything which offers you a quick way to be a practitioner. I have seen a number of people who have been fed a lot of nonsense including one who went for a healing session and got convinced to learn Reiki and being rather vulnerable and overwhelmed agreed. She came to be in such a state and took me a while to calm her down and bring her back to normal. I was told by my guides (my guides are not very chatty but they intervened straight away) that the teacher was not very experienced and had opened up a channel in this lady who was clearly not ready for such an experience. It also appears she was undulated with too much “whoo hoo” stuff which she didn’t understand. There are huge repercussions when people are not careful. Lives can be affected and people can get overwhelmed. 

You can get very carried away with everything and lose your focus sometimes. I try to surround myself with people with the same ethos as myself which is wonderful. I instigated a retreat for this weekend with a friend but things came up so I couldn’t go but seeing how it all panned it out has been lovely. Hopefully I will be doing the next one. Lots of healing, workshops, meditation, creativity and bonding in a cottage somewhere beautiful. Let me know if you want to come along to the next one. It will be in the UK and won’t take too long to drive to.

I intended to blog about something else entirely but as usual one of my guides took over and this is about guidance about working spirituality and hopefully it will help someone. The message is to be careful, take your time and do things properly, not just because it is easy! 

Today is the last of the super new moons of the year.  I have shared some insights here: https://www.facebook.com/angelamitchellmedium

Have a lovely weekend!

How to Help Your Children if They see Spirits

How to Help Your Children if They see Spirits

Mommy………daddy….there is a man in my room! 

Apart from the disruption in sleep, the words above screamed at you in between sobs can make most parents want to run away and hide probably from both the Spirits as well as their children. First of all, it is tricky to explain to your little ones what they are experiencing if you are not very interested or aware of spirits. It is the same feeling I get when I am asked to calculate big numbers! Part of it is having to explain something you don’t fully understand but also it is incredibly difficult to see your little one feeling so scared about something you can’t see or feel.  Parents have a natural instinct to protect their children and when they can’t, it feels like your hands are tied and it is frustrating.

As someone who suffered tremendously as a child with spiritual experiences and learned to deal with it on my own, I have been thinking of writing this post and a possible e-book for a long time but as usual I get side tracked and never got around it. But Spirit have ways to get me to do things! I had several clients who came to see asking about the very same topic – all having children who see spirits and don’t know what to do to help them, messages from friends and some former clients. So despite having a hundred and one things to do today, I was pulled to the laptop and the words are flowing as we speak. 

First thing you need to understand is that we are all born intuitive and the ability to see spirit. As we grow older and as the mind analyses everything and our thoughts are influenced by our upbringing or our own opinions, some of us “forget” that part of our self.  The second most important point is that spirits mean no harm. It is our fear of them or the unknown that makes us “feel” the negative energy.

The most common visits are from family in Spirit. Grandparents, parents or anyone related to the child will want to visit and if possible, communicate their love. Of course not all of them know how to and children may only be able to see shadows which in the dark looks scary.

It is not uncommon for strangers who may have lived in the house before your family moved in or on the plot of land the house was built on, come for a little look. Put yourself in their position and ask yourself, wouldn’t you do the same? Would you not visit your grandchild after you passed? Or come by to see the house you had the best memories in? The answer is a big YES!  

Children have more spiritual experiences than psychic at the beginning as it takes time for them to fully understand and flex their psychic ability while being able to see or feel Spirit is easier as they have no preconceived notions, prejudice or fear – you can say this is an open door for spiritual experiences. If they are meant to be spiritually connected throughout their lives then this will continue and they will attract mentors and helpers to develop their abilities.

The challenge is their reaction to a Spirit visit. Fear comes naturally as when the lights are out and they see a shadow or a person standing in their bedroom who is not someone they recognise. Children have a natural curiosity and will want to know more – who, why and what. Others will be shaken to the core because they KNOW that they are seeing Spirit or something they can’t fully understand.

Why did I write this? I KNOW how it feels! I learned from my own experiences and want to help the new generation of children to be more comfortable with the Spiritual world. I spent a long time fearing and thinking Spirits were evil and scary. But I know better now and I fully appreciate every moment I spent working with Spirit. 

I had spirits visiting me from a very young age but it was only when I was 10 when I realised that the people I was seeing were actually spirits. It scared me and I wasn’t very comfortable because I couldn’t understand their presence and the feelings that would come with it. For example a cold spot on my arm, goosebumps or sensing their death or hearing a message – it all freaked me out. Of course now a medium, this is all normal and I don’t feel negativity at all when I am near spirit. But as a child it was scary, intrusive and really affected my life in ways I cannot even begin to explain.

For many years I slept with the lights on and in fact always had the light on in hotel rooms or when I was alone in the house, I hated the dark, I had nightmares, disturbed sleep, felt misunderstood, and thought I was a misfit.

My parents tried everything to help me and my dad would often get to sleep really late as he would stay up in case I had a nightmare or an experience whereby I would start screaming in the night. It would take ages for them to calm me down and for me to go back to sleep. My mother would pray for me and sing devotional songs to make me feel better. I remember seeing several mediums and medicine men to help me but nothing helped. I had all sorts of charms and protective things around my bed and in my pillow to help but it just went on for years. I also suffered from sleep paralysis for a long time and I don’t have to tell you how absolutely terrifying an experience it was for me as a child. I mistakenly thought I was being attacked by spirits and that added to my fear.

So what have I learned from my own experiences? And what advise can I give to parents? Here is my essential list on how you can help your children:

  • First of all, it is important to have an open dialogue with your young ones. Try to understand what they are seeing. Write it down in a book with a date and time of when they wake up.
  • Look back at what you have written down later that day. Try to understand what your child experienced that night. For example:  Tim said he saw a tall man wearing a hat, standing next to the wardrobe. He had a cane and was reaching out for Tim.  Now if you look at this information – you have information about a spirit contact – tall man who lived in an era where men wore hats and possibly dressed in a suit. Now think about someone in spirit who matches that description on both  you and your partner’s side of the family. Was Is it a grandfather or great grandfather? Ask family members and maybe have a look at an old photo album. You may well find a photo that links to the Spirit contact. Allow your child to view the photo and explain who this person was, if possible describe their character. Now from Tim’s description it sounds like the spirit contact merely wanted to say hello and was reaching out with affection. Explain to the child that sometimes, when someone passes into the light, they do come back to say hello and to show love.  Take the fear and negativity out of that experience so that all that remains is LOVE and the child is now able to enjoy the experience. 
  • You can also teach your children to speak to the spirit contact. They can also be taught to say something simple like “thank you for visiting but I want to sleep now” so that sets a sort of boundary that Spirit will respect.
  • If your children are a little older and able to write, give them a journal, help them decorate it and call it their “spiritual journal” or whatever you both would like to call it. Guide them to write down their experiences. There may even be messages from spirit but also from their own intuition.
  • Guide them to “humanise” the spirit contact. I know it sounds weird but by teaching them to have a conversation with the Spirit, it almost makes it a more normal experience.  They can ask “what is your name? “who are you” “Do you know my parents? “where do you live? So this allows the fear to take second place.  You will find that they will get more curious and be able to talk about it without any fear.
  • You can clear the energy in their room by smudging the house and areas where they see the spirit contact with white sage. I always have a lighted candle on a clean plate and a shell for my sage to rest on as I walk around the house. You can say “whoever who is visiting, please go to the light. We politely ask you to leave this space”
  • Sensitive children can also feel the pain of the spirit contact’s passing or even their emotions. For example if a grandchild was born after a grandmother has passed, she may feel great sadness at not being alive for the birth and being able to physically hold that child. Spirits sometimes miss their “physical” life and it can seem sad. Some children will feel it more than others. It is up the parents to understand and explain this to the children as they grow older.
  • The most important thing parents can do is to try to understand what their children are going through and not dismiss their experiences as “nonsense” or “rubbish” or worse still blame it on their over active imagination. It is very frustrating for children who can’t express themselves clearly to be told what they are experiencing is not important!
  • The best way to help someone is to understand what the other person is going through. Read up about how mediumship, spiritual experiences and how the different gifts work. There is plenty of free information on the Internet and books you can read.
  • Get support – you can take them to your local spiritual church. They will be able to give both you and your child important insights and recommend useful books and reading material. Almost all Spiritual Churches have a development circle where people can learn the basics, attend every week to expand their knowledge and experience with Spirit. I am not entirely sure if they do work with children but I have seen teenagers attend. This is something to consider if you feel your child has an interest in developing spiritually.
  • Go see an experienced and knowledgeable medium either with your child or on your own to get better insight into how it all works.
  • Don’t doubt your children if they say they see spirits. This is a guarantee that they will suffer from insecurities and feel misunderstood. The most important thing you can do is to LISTEN and acknowledge what they are going through.
  • Just remember that most of the time Spirit people show themselves because they are truly desperate to be acknowledged. They want to reach out and they want to communicate. The more your explain what the child is experiencing, the more they will be comfortable and relaxed. But to do this, you the parent need to be comfortable with THEIR experiences.

Finally as the parent you need to make the effort to take the fear out of the experience and perhaps also be open to learning more about the spirit world. Understand that they come in contact with us to say hello and to reach out. They don’t mean us any harm but then you have to realise that not all spirits are the same. Some can be a little too eager than others which means they aren’t familiar with their communication skills and then to give out the wrong message or be a little clumsy. 

Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you have any questions or would like me to support your child in their development. 

I love feedback so please feel free to leave me a comment and let me know if this was useful to you.