How many times have you talked yourself out of doing something because you were afraid? Have you stopped from applying for a job after looking at the job description saying to yourself “I can’t do this” or decline a date just because of fear?
What is the one thing, apart from the obvious, that sets you apart from a toddler? FEAR. They are pretty much fearless aren’t they? They learn as they are growing up that fire is dangerous, fall off high things will hurt, they shouldn’t make too much noise, and most often than not, they will not get presents at Christmas if they misbehave. We somehow get reprogrammed throughout our lives with negative such as fear which then dents our confidence, self image and worth.
Most of us go about life with tags attached to ourselves which influence every aspect of our personality and actions. Imagine a virus embedded within our software than runs “programme Angela” or “programme Jessy”. Signals are sent out as to reprogrammed actions and reactions. Everything you do, say or feel may be influenced by that one little forgotten code.
Imagine for a moment that software is our brain and the virus is fear. Now see how it can trigger and influence your feelings, actions and reactions throughout your life.
In a weird way, fear can manifest like a real person for some people. Someone who is constantly judging, watching and influencing you. It can make you feel unsafe, unworthy, incapable and simply afraid.
What works for me? God only knows how hard it is to put yourself out there and I do that constantly. Am I that confident? No at all. I give people the impression I am but I am shy and get very nervous when I have to face an audience. I am slowly letting go of fear and re-programme myself.
What you can do to help yourself:
- Talk yourself out of fear – when you are about to say no to something that you know could be fun, good for you or change your life – have a conversation aloud with yourself. Ask yourself “why shouldn’t I do this? Or “Why is this a bad thing? And go through the pros and cons with FEAR. If you feel strange about speaking to yourself above, then write it down. This will be a good way for you to focus on why you SHOULD do it rather than the vague “don’t do it” that hovers in the corners of your mind.
- Say to yourself “so what” when those negative thoughts pop in Create time for yourself – quiet room, soft music, incense and a comfy position. Close your eyes and go back to good memories from your youth or childhood. Think about how you felt – carefree, fearless, able, willing and happy. Think about achievements, how it felt. Go deep into the memory and really feel the moment. Hold that feeling and think about the one thing in your life right now that is bothering you. Now see the memory washing over your dilemma. Sense how it changes everything. Keep doing this daily and I sincerely believe you will see things from a different perspective
- Our society and conditioning has created an over thinking culture. We analyse things to death and often to our own detriment. Stop yourself from over analysing and just do things without thinking. Obviously you would need to be very careful about certain things.
- Sometimes its the small things that really affect us the most. It is not that being able to afford the dream house that is making you unhappy. It could be your image or loneliness. Perhaps you have always worn long skirts and hate your grey hair but too afraid to change! You could well be saying “people will laugh at me if I dyed my hair! In the long run, people’s judgement isn’t important if it makes you happy isn’t it? We all struggle with wanting to meet new people but for various reasons, we find ourselves alone but don’t feel we have anything to offer to others, so step back. We all have something to offer and we won’t know who is out there unless we try. Such a shame to not try because we are scared. So free yourself and just do it!
Why is it important?
You know how people say, let go of the old to let in the new? Well this is exactly why. If you want to manifest a happier, comfortable life then you need to let go of fear. The more you let go of negative thoughts and feelings, the higher your vibration. It unblocks your flow and allows you to manifest and bring us closer to our soul purpose. Fear is crippling and fear can stop you from living the life you are meant to be living.
I hope this helps you look at something you are dealing with differently. I struggle with doing videos and I remember saying every time I did one last year “I hate how I sound” but I kept doing it and of course it was scary as I wondered if anyone would listen to it or who was laughing at me! But these days the words flow I am focusing on what I am saying and the feedback from people who listened to it inspires me to go on. I cannot help feeling proud of myself.
Remember dear friends, for every one person who will judge you — there will be three others who will think you are amazing! Here is the one I did on Friday – Listening to Your Intuition
The Spring Equinox started tomorrow so expect some good news, action and clarity. Clear the energy in the house with a little smudging and sprinkle some Himalyan salt around the four corners of the house.
Love & Light,