How to Help Your Children if They see Spirits

Mommy………daddy….there is a man in my room! 

Apart from the disruption in sleep, the words above screamed at you in between sobs can make most parents want to run away and hide probably from both the Spirits as well as their children. First of all, it is tricky to explain to your little ones what they are experiencing if you are not very interested or aware of spirits. It is the same feeling I get when I am asked to calculate big numbers! Part of it is having to explain something you don’t fully understand but also it is incredibly difficult to see your little one feeling so scared about something you can’t see or feel.  Parents have a natural instinct to protect their children and when they can’t, it feels like your hands are tied and it is frustrating.

As someone who suffered tremendously as a child with spiritual experiences and learned to deal with it on my own, I have been thinking of writing this post and a possible e-book for a long time but as usual I get side tracked and never got around it. But Spirit have ways to get me to do things! I had several clients who came to see asking about the very same topic – all having children who see spirits and don’t know what to do to help them, messages from friends and some former clients. So despite having a hundred and one things to do today, I was pulled to the laptop and the words are flowing as we speak. 

First thing you need to understand is that we are all born intuitive and the ability to see spirit. As we grow older and as the mind analyses everything and our thoughts are influenced by our upbringing or our own opinions, some of us “forget” that part of our self.  The second most important point is that spirits mean no harm. It is our fear of them or the unknown that makes us “feel” the negative energy.

The most common visits are from family in Spirit. Grandparents, parents or anyone related to the child will want to visit and if possible, communicate their love. Of course not all of them know how to and children may only be able to see shadows which in the dark looks scary.

It is not uncommon for strangers who may have lived in the house before your family moved in or on the plot of land the house was built on, come for a little look. Put yourself in their position and ask yourself, wouldn’t you do the same? Would you not visit your grandchild after you passed? Or come by to see the house you had the best memories in? The answer is a big YES!  

Children have more spiritual experiences than psychic at the beginning as it takes time for them to fully understand and flex their psychic ability while being able to see or feel Spirit is easier as they have no preconceived notions, prejudice or fear – you can say this is an open door for spiritual experiences. If they are meant to be spiritually connected throughout their lives then this will continue and they will attract mentors and helpers to develop their abilities.

The challenge is their reaction to a Spirit visit. Fear comes naturally as when the lights are out and they see a shadow or a person standing in their bedroom who is not someone they recognise. Children have a natural curiosity and will want to know more – who, why and what. Others will be shaken to the core because they KNOW that they are seeing Spirit or something they can’t fully understand.

Why did I write this? I KNOW how it feels! I learned from my own experiences and want to help the new generation of children to be more comfortable with the Spiritual world. I spent a long time fearing and thinking Spirits were evil and scary. But I know better now and I fully appreciate every moment I spent working with Spirit. 

I had spirits visiting me from a very young age but it was only when I was 10 when I realised that the people I was seeing were actually spirits. It scared me and I wasn’t very comfortable because I couldn’t understand their presence and the feelings that would come with it. For example a cold spot on my arm, goosebumps or sensing their death or hearing a message – it all freaked me out. Of course now a medium, this is all normal and I don’t feel negativity at all when I am near spirit. But as a child it was scary, intrusive and really affected my life in ways I cannot even begin to explain.

For many years I slept with the lights on and in fact always had the light on in hotel rooms or when I was alone in the house, I hated the dark, I had nightmares, disturbed sleep, felt misunderstood, and thought I was a misfit.

My parents tried everything to help me and my dad would often get to sleep really late as he would stay up in case I had a nightmare or an experience whereby I would start screaming in the night. It would take ages for them to calm me down and for me to go back to sleep. My mother would pray for me and sing devotional songs to make me feel better. I remember seeing several mediums and medicine men to help me but nothing helped. I had all sorts of charms and protective things around my bed and in my pillow to help but it just went on for years. I also suffered from sleep paralysis for a long time and I don’t have to tell you how absolutely terrifying an experience it was for me as a child. I mistakenly thought I was being attacked by spirits and that added to my fear.

So what have I learned from my own experiences? And what advise can I give to parents? Here is my essential list on how you can help your children:

  • First of all, it is important to have an open dialogue with your young ones. Try to understand what they are seeing. Write it down in a book with a date and time of when they wake up.
  • Look back at what you have written down later that day. Try to understand what your child experienced that night. For example:  Tim said he saw a tall man wearing a hat, standing next to the wardrobe. He had a cane and was reaching out for Tim.  Now if you look at this information – you have information about a spirit contact – tall man who lived in an era where men wore hats and possibly dressed in a suit. Now think about someone in spirit who matches that description on both  you and your partner’s side of the family. Was Is it a grandfather or great grandfather? Ask family members and maybe have a look at an old photo album. You may well find a photo that links to the Spirit contact. Allow your child to view the photo and explain who this person was, if possible describe their character. Now from Tim’s description it sounds like the spirit contact merely wanted to say hello and was reaching out with affection. Explain to the child that sometimes, when someone passes into the light, they do come back to say hello and to show love.  Take the fear and negativity out of that experience so that all that remains is LOVE and the child is now able to enjoy the experience. 
  • You can also teach your children to speak to the spirit contact. They can also be taught to say something simple like “thank you for visiting but I want to sleep now” so that sets a sort of boundary that Spirit will respect.
  • If your children are a little older and able to write, give them a journal, help them decorate it and call it their “spiritual journal” or whatever you both would like to call it. Guide them to write down their experiences. There may even be messages from spirit but also from their own intuition.
  • Guide them to “humanise” the spirit contact. I know it sounds weird but by teaching them to have a conversation with the Spirit, it almost makes it a more normal experience.  They can ask “what is your name? “who are you” “Do you know my parents? “where do you live? So this allows the fear to take second place.  You will find that they will get more curious and be able to talk about it without any fear.
  • You can clear the energy in their room by smudging the house and areas where they see the spirit contact with white sage. I always have a lighted candle on a clean plate and a shell for my sage to rest on as I walk around the house. You can say “whoever who is visiting, please go to the light. We politely ask you to leave this space”
  • Sensitive children can also feel the pain of the spirit contact’s passing or even their emotions. For example if a grandchild was born after a grandmother has passed, she may feel great sadness at not being alive for the birth and being able to physically hold that child. Spirits sometimes miss their “physical” life and it can seem sad. Some children will feel it more than others. It is up the parents to understand and explain this to the children as they grow older.
  • The most important thing parents can do is to try to understand what their children are going through and not dismiss their experiences as “nonsense” or “rubbish” or worse still blame it on their over active imagination. It is very frustrating for children who can’t express themselves clearly to be told what they are experiencing is not important!
  • The best way to help someone is to understand what the other person is going through. Read up about how mediumship, spiritual experiences and how the different gifts work. There is plenty of free information on the Internet and books you can read.
  • Get support – you can take them to your local spiritual church. They will be able to give both you and your child important insights and recommend useful books and reading material. Almost all Spiritual Churches have a development circle where people can learn the basics, attend every week to expand their knowledge and experience with Spirit. I am not entirely sure if they do work with children but I have seen teenagers attend. This is something to consider if you feel your child has an interest in developing spiritually.
  • Go see an experienced and knowledgeable medium either with your child or on your own to get better insight into how it all works.
  • Don’t doubt your children if they say they see spirits. This is a guarantee that they will suffer from insecurities and feel misunderstood. The most important thing you can do is to LISTEN and acknowledge what they are going through.
  • Just remember that most of the time Spirit people show themselves because they are truly desperate to be acknowledged. They want to reach out and they want to communicate. The more your explain what the child is experiencing, the more they will be comfortable and relaxed. But to do this, you the parent need to be comfortable with THEIR experiences.

Finally as the parent you need to make the effort to take the fear out of the experience and perhaps also be open to learning more about the spirit world. Understand that they come in contact with us to say hello and to reach out. They don’t mean us any harm but then you have to realise that not all spirits are the same. Some can be a little too eager than others which means they aren’t familiar with their communication skills and then to give out the wrong message or be a little clumsy. 

Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me if you have any questions or would like me to support your child in their development. 

I love feedback so please feel free to leave me a comment and let me know if this was useful to you.

 

January Full Moon 2016

Have you been outside to look at the drama that has been playing out on our skies this evening? Dark, mysterious and stunning. That is the energy that is around us at the moment. Used correctly, it can manifest our dreams otherwise, it will bring out some dark feelings. The best way to work with this energy is to do your wishlist a little different this time. Instead of putting all the things you think you need……. write down what you want to let go. For example if you are single, you would have put down “I want to meet a man” (some would add, status, health, looks etc) but what you may need to let go is “the fear of being alone”. I know it sounds unrelated but this may be really the real stumbling block to finding the right person and ultimately,to your happiness. We may be making decisions based on these core issues which run continuously in the background without our knowledge.
 
Or if you are hoping for a better financial situation, you are likely to write “I want to win the lottery”. First of all, the lottery is chance so even in psychic readings, a true professional will never predict or provide numbers or combinations. We all know the odds of winning the lottery is terrible so in a away we are asking the universe for something that way well be impossible. But getting back to the wishlist, you could choose to “let go bad financial decisions” which in some if not most cases (talking about myself!) the root of the problem. By letting that go, we are giving ourselves the freedom and telling the universe, we are ready for a better financial situation.
 
Think about what you want/need and let your mind wander to what you need to let go. Don’t over think it….just write down whatever that drops into your mind. You will be surprised. Don’t worry if it doesn’t work the first time and your mind brings up things like how many eggs you have in the fridge etc. Letting go takes time and our body and our mind is trained to resist it.
Pay attention to your dreams, especially the ones where you have a conversation with someone. Keep a notepad next to your bed and keep your eyes closed for a second and let your mind wander back to the dream to “catch” it. Write down everything you remember. Also keep an eye out for numbers.  Such a relevant message for me as I embark on a new but not unfamiliar journey.
 
My guide for the moon rituals is on here. As usual don’t worry if you can’t burn your wishlist or if you can’t do it today. Put your wishlist near a window where the moon rays is likely to wash it with its energy. You can put it inside a clean box and leave it at a safe place. You can also do the ritual one or two days before or after the new/full moon. All this is a GUIDE and not a rule. 
 
My camera is playing up so would love to see your photos of tonight’s moon. Also you know I love feedback so let me know if the exercise above helped.
Lots of love x Angela

Reflections on the Moon

Nine years ago today I packed my entire life in Sweden into 15kgs of luggage to board a plane headed to London. I was alone, scared, somewhat naive and to be honest, terrified. I didn’t know anyone,no job and no plans. The first few months were scary, difficult, confusing and there were times where I wanted to go back. But I didn’t give up. Glad I did as 11 months later I met a wonderful man who is my now my husband.

I cannot but help reflect on the last couple of years and I realise that how far I have come, not materially but as a person and in my spirituality.

It thought me that sometimes you have to take the leap and believe that everything will be okay.

Today I am grateful for doing the things that make me happy with the person I love.

When I do my wishlist tonight, alongside the things I would love to have in my life, I will add a list of all things that I am grateful for.

If you have any questions about how to tap into tonight’s powerful energy and preparing for the #newmoon you can check my guide below

Guide to writing your intention/wishlist , energising crystals and smudging for full moons

Unity in Diversity

The energy around us feels heavy and painful. Old issues cropping up right now and emotions stirred some good, some bad. But its all part of the process to build us up and make us stronger. Stand tall and stand proud of who you are and what you stand for. I had a few minutes to myself this evening so I sat in my power, to be still, to quieten my mind and to receive. My spirit family offered Yellow Bear who helps me  with my mediumship. I am always humbled and grateful when any of them come forward to help me develop. After a few messages, he made my right hand twitch and I felt myself reaching out for a pen. I saw my left wrist and there was a pattern emerging on there. Once I was out of deep meditation, I saw that I had drawn a symbol on my wrist. It looked like a tattoo.

Native American symbol channeled by Yellow Bear

Native American symbol channeled by Yellow Bear

The obvious interpretation of this is that to get a tattoo using the design but I am into tattoos at all and I am not about to get one now. I do admire beautiful tattoos and body art in general but I don’t think I want to go through the pain in the name of art. Anyway after some digging, I found a Native American symbol that looks similar. It means Unity in Diversity. There is another image I saw which has a similar meaning but of crocodiles from Africa but I felt drawn to the Native American one. Once I was aware of this, the message flowed. My guide wanted to me to channel a message about the challenging energy and current world events. The way forward for humanity is to embrace the diversity and unite to bring peace and love back to our world. Somehow the only way for peace and love to survive is to bring people from different races, religion, nationalities and culture together. Fractured we are weak, together we are powerful.

Do you remember the story about the old man and his sons? He used sticks as an analogy to remind them that unity is strength. Its a lovely story and hope you will share with your little ones – Bundle of Sticks 

Terrorists and Governments are using religion to divide and terrify us. Isn’t it typical that the less we know about something, the more we fear it? It is like walking down an alleyway and you see someone at the other end. Because all you can see is a shadow and a shape, you cannot help but feel scared. You will see the person for what they are when they step into the light.  The shadows cloud our judgement. It is easy to fear what we don’t know enough of. Increasing our understanding and information about different religions, means there will be less “us and “them”.

The way forward is to change our mindset, from the Media to the man on the street. The few that try to break us will break themselves as they will be powerless.

This is a message of patience for change, opportunity for change and to bring love , joy and acceptance into our world.

I am as always humbled by messages from my guides. Thank you for reading.

I’d love to hear from you if you have seen this symbol elsewhere and think you know what it means. Feel free to comment if you want to share any thoughts or have questions.

Repeating numbers and coins

Repeating numbers and coins

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One of my dear clients who enjoys reading my blog, sent me a question about seeing numbers and finding coins.  Numbers such as  (111 or 14:14 etc ) have been repeating in a specific pattern for the last couple of months. This has been occurring when searching for something on the internet or looking at the time. And most recently she found coins in the most unexpected places like the bathroom sink or the dresser. No one knew who it belonged to.

First of all we have to understand how spirit sign works. Imagine yourself in the spirit world. You are desperate to communicate with your loved ones, so what do you do? You learn how to manipulate feathers, birds, coins sensations and smells. This is my opinion and my understanding from years of developing. Please note that you will read different opinions on the same subject. I believe that it takes time for spirit to learn how to adapt and to communicate. Just like mediums, they have to understand their tools, learn how to use it and what will work for them. This is why no two communication with spirit is the same. For example at some readings, the information provided would be through visions while another would be only symbols.  They have to understand what the mediums skills are and match that up with their own abilities. There is a lot more we have to understand about spirit and the spirit world.

You need to be aware that someone is trying to get your attention. Once you start asking yourself — why ? What is the reason? Who is trying to reach me? Then it will be easier for them to reach out to you.  I suggest you write when, where and what time these things happen, what was going in your life at that time. Write down WHY?  and watch out for what happens in your dreams. A lot of us miss our messages, answers and guidance that appear in our dreams. I always have a dream book next to my bed. I scribble down thoughts that linger on the moment I wake, words in my mind or just a summary of my dreams.

My father speaks to me through dreams. I have had full conversations with him about issues and would wake up with not the details of the discussion but the solution to the problem.  Seeing numbers and coins is often a sign that someone is  trying to get your attention. It also signals important events or changes in your life. So look at what is happening around you and how this message relates to that situation.

Numbers can be both from Angels as well as from Spirit but I always ask myself does it  matter? They are all energy and they often work in teams to help each  one of us.  The number one is always about the self, about you, the changes, the new ideas, creativity and the challenges that we need to overcome to become one. There are plenty of #numberjunkies out there who wait until the clock strikes 11:11 for a screenshot and get all excited about the changes and magic they are about to get. Don’t be that person! Let it happen naturally and acknowledge it and look at your life.  What are the challenges you are experiencing, what are the changes that you need to improve it?

I feel that spirit chooses coins because they can absorb their energy better . Next time you find a coin , please find a moment that day to meditate with it in your hands. Put on some music  from Dr Nippun Aggrawal such as my favourite and one of the best meditation music. I love it as it is great for focus. Best way to listen to it is via your earphones as the vibrations are delightfully powerful!

As you sit there listening to the chants, feel that coin in your hand, feel its weight, shape and then start to feel its energy. Become aware of who is around you, become aware of the energy around you starting to change. Be passive to any messages or visions that may appear or…thoughts. For example if you are sitting and doing the above and suddenly you start thinking of someone at work. This person may have been causing you issues and damaged your confidence. But you haven’t realised it at a soul level and have been going around with a dark cloud around for the last couple of months. pick-up-pennyThis thought did not just appear. It was put in your mind during this special connection. You may have even experienced a sensation in your throat the same time the thought appeared. There is no such thing as a coincidence with spirit. They would have made you aware of the fact that you need to speak out and take control of the situation rather than just feeling powerless. They brought your attention to the heart of the matter. Collect the coins and put them in a jar or a box. Once it has filled the space you have given them, give them away to charity.

A lot of my writings are channeled to my by spirit guardians who really enjoy the philosophy side of the spirit world and love to explore questions which people may have. They don’t expect everyone to agree with their version as there is no one truth.

Many paths lead to the same place says my main inspiration.